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Posted: Friday October 21st, 2005 01:25 |
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Here's a topic similar to the previous thread.
I'm 20. I'm female. I've never had a boyfriend in my life.
Is there something wrong with me? 
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Posted: Friday October 21st, 2005 02:28 |
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| Well I wouldn't say there is something wrong with you, but if you want a boyfriend but you can't get one, then that would indicate to me that you have some issues that need addressing. As a young person it much easy to find someone, young people tend to carry less mental baggage. I would suggest you take a long look at yourself, because all answers you have. GOOD LUCK
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Posted: Friday October 21st, 2005 06:41 |
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michsm2 wrote:
Here's a topic similar to the previous thread.
I'm 20. I'm female. I've never had a boyfriend in my life.
Is there something wrong with me?
yes there is a problem. it's probably normal reaction to what ever is affecting you in my case parent's divorce(if my parents are divorced and the divorce rate is 50% why try is what I say) but you are going to have to solve it some way some how
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Posted: Friday October 21st, 2005 18:00 |
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michsm2 wrote: Here's a topic similar to the previous thread.
I'm 20. I'm female. I've never had a boyfriend in my life.
Is there something wrong with me?
Depends on WHY you haven't had one. I didnt want to commit when I was younger and as such ain't had a serious long term relationship. I STILL don't really wanna commit even now I'm 20 lol. If you ain't had one cos no one wants you of course that's different.
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Posted: Friday October 21st, 2005 18:14 |
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michsm2 wrote: Here's a topic similar to the previous thread.
I'm 20. I'm female. I've never had a boyfriend in my life.
Is there something wrong with me?
I'm a couple years older than you. I have never had a serious relationship/girlfriend.
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Posted: Saturday October 22nd, 2005 00:40 |
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michsm2 wrote: Here's a topic similar to the previous thread.
I'm 20. I'm female. I've never had a boyfriend in my life.
Is there something wrong with me?
Yes, because you think it's a problem in the first place.
I'd say that's the biggest problem you have right now.
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Posted: Saturday October 22nd, 2005 01:39 |
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I am in the same boat and I don't feel there's anything wrong with me. It depends on what your reasons for not having a boyfriend are. I don't see it as a problem, boyfriends have just never been a priority for me.
Do you think there is something wrong with you not having a boyfriend?
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Posted: Saturday October 22nd, 2005 10:02 |
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 ... Maybe it's because you post your 20 and still single in the under 18's forum....
In all seriousness, there's nothing wrong with you, like someone mentioned earlier, it's only a problem if you think it is a problem. Try not to concentrate too much on it, you know if you look too hard you won't find it.Try just improving you social life, clubs, bars etc.. Are at University or in education? If not perahps join a class. May be some people for you to talk to there..
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Posted: Monday October 24th, 2005 00:52 |
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interesting topic..actually our pastor at my church was talking about young ladies taking so long to get a man, and playing hard to get...until they find themselves at an age where no man wants them any more.
anyways, i would not say there's something wrong with, it all depends on what your doing, are you saying that the reason you have not got a man is that you always reject men, or that men never ask you out?
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Posted: Monday October 24th, 2005 01:09 |
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Pm yah pic and let me see or post em up if yah cool with it.
Then we can judge... Are u from london? yah have to really check yah self properly if you think yah ok. then dont see why you should have a problem
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Posted: Monday October 24th, 2005 15:58 |
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michsm2 babe dont worry about it...trust me. the right guy will pass thru ur life..and whether ur 20 or 30 doesnt matter. its better to b fully developed(body&mind) n then enter a relationship. u wont lose yourself cus u kno who u are more at age 20+ then when ur 13. see ive been in *relationships* since i was 9 lol...hardly called serious relationships...but u havent missed ne thing trust me...thank god now i found my soulm8 and im very blessed..i know im still young but i know shes the 1 for me..and im planning to marry her wether she likes it or not lol
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Posted: Monday October 24th, 2005 17:35 |
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Well, I think it's complicated.
1. I always get the sexual, perverted stares from men in their 30s and 40s. Granted, I'm 5'10" and have a womanly-shaped body. I understand they are trying to be nice and say they're established, but they're umm...a little too old? lol 
2. I never get asked out by guys my age range (18 - 25) . They seem to like chatty, fine-a$$ women. I'm quite reserved in my books (after all I'm in college for my education), but I like to have a good time as well....
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Posted: Tuesday January 31st, 2006 23:52 |
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Well it sounds like you want quite a "reserved" boyfriend in your age group. But thats the problem, being reserved means that they are probably to shy to maybe come and speak to you. Its only when they get older they would normally start to have more courage.
Best advice I would give would if you see a "reserved type" potential boyfriend, make the first move.
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Posted: Wednesday February 15th, 2006 15:13 |
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Michism2,
We don't know you, but just because you're 20 doesn't mean, you're weird. I was 20 when I had my first boyfriend. Like you I thought that not having one was odd but when I got into it, I realized that I really wasn't ready for it and just wanted the whole thing to be over. Since then I had a couple more of them. I'll be 35, Not long ago,( allmost six years ago) I wasn't dating anybody before I met my current boyfriend. Even with him, I had no intentions of dating him . I was enjoying my life without having the relationship responsibilites. Th eonly difference with me at 20 and at almost 35 is that I was more ready to handle a relationship, I understood the elements of having a lasting relationship, and now that I'm older, I'm more settled and no longer want to be in a rat race, whether I'm single or involved with someone. Now that I have a boyfriend, my friends think I should marry and have kids. My opinion: If it's meant for me to have one than god will let have it all. Mind youthat atage ,it's more difficult for women to have kids at that age, but I much would rather chance not having one , than to have one and I know that I'm not enjoying my life because of them.
I can think of many of my peers who went and wanted to have their fun at 20 and even far younger( like 13-17). In their case some of them went on to become extremely young grandmothers( and they won't admit to it), some want to go out an party when they can't do it and some of them are having regrets of being in marriage( in some of their cases ) young. Society tell us what age we should have relationships, but at that age, you should be having fun with /without a spouse, go to college( that is if you're not attending) get your degree, think about your own well being and if a realtionship means that much to you, then get your boyfriend. Relationships( good ones) is a lot of work. Ask yourself do you want to be so bogged down at such a young age. Though I cannot speak for you or anybody else, my experience as I just mentioned on here was I felt smothered, miserable and felt like a 90 year old in a 20 year old's body. I wasn't giving myself more time to experience the other joys of life.
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Posted: Wednesday February 15th, 2006 15:29 |
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@CeeCee
Really good advice...
Certain elements I can relate to...
Thanks...
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Posted: Wednesday February 15th, 2006 15:49 |
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michsm2 wrote: Here's a topic similar to the previous thread.
I'm 20. I'm female. I've never had a boyfriend in my life.
Is there something wrong with me?
im 20 as well only had one b/f and i know jack shyte aint wrong wid me...
dont be forced hun...wen u ready to have a 'man' den u do yuh ting !
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Posted: Thursday February 16th, 2006 22:31 |
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| go cee cee you tell it!!!!!! michsm2 you will alright
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Posted: Saturday March 11th, 2006 14:57 |
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Posted: Saturday March 11th, 2006 18:53 |
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*Smiling* You make it sound like 20 is old. Do you still have all of your teeth and hair?
The thing about relationships is..when you want one, it's difficult to find what you are looking for and when you don't want one, women (or in your case, men) are falling out of ever tree and bush for you.
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Posted: Friday June 23rd, 2006 20:08 |
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I don't see anything wrong with being that young and not having "someone", I think some young women's dependency of having to have someone is a problem to itself. Everbody with normal faculties wants the nutriment of love. I would not recommend any woman to be in a relationship from fear of being alone, that increases the chance that a woman will be in an unhealthy relationship with an a$$hole.
For women as well as men, I recommend first knowing exactly what one wants. Particularly for women, because a lot of women around that age still don't know exactly what they want although they say that they do. One could save a whole lot of heartache by not having to experience directly what one should and shouldn't want. The second (this isn't in a particular order), one has to learn of oneself, that is the only way one can love oneself.
People say opposites attract, but that isn't exclusively the truth. Like does attract like, so if you exude love, that will be what you attract.
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Posted: Friday July 21st, 2006 05:04 |
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Hey sis-
Imma about to slap you with some tough love okay?
Here it is...
You're 20 years old and never had a boyfriend. Is there something wrong with you?
Who knows the answer to that question better than you?
From where i'm sitting the only thing 'wrong' with you is the fact that you have to ask people who know absolutely nothing about you who you are.
I'm not even gonna try to get in your head and tell you whatever it is you think you want to hear or are expecting to hear from anyone who might identify--I can identify with the feeling behind the question and I'm sure there are a lot of folks who can. But then, none of us are YOU, and regardless of any of the advice you've been given (and that is not to say that any of it is valid or not), it's not going to change anything and it certainly isn't going to help you deal directly with who YOU are and WHY YOU think you have a problem because you don't have a boyfriend.
Perhaps I'm being a bit cold with you but I honestly feel that the best thing for you to do is look inside yourself instead of outside yourself.
Peace.
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Posted: Saturday July 22nd, 2006 00:15 |
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michsm2 wrote: Here's a topic similar to the previous thread.
I'm 20. I'm female. I've never had a boyfriend in my life.
Is there something wrong with me?
By now if you're 21 then yes, there's a real big problem. 
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Posted: Saturday July 22nd, 2006 13:10 |
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Nothing wrong with you whatsoever. Don't let the media make u think that u have to
hav a man attached to you by now. Wait for it to happen. Don't make it seem like a
or you will probably get stressed.
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