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Posted: Sunday March 27th, 2005 17:33 |
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i would just like to know, if people lost theirs due to peer pressure etc... or if they are holding out for that special someone.
i waited for a decent person to come along first. most of my mates lost it cos every one else was doin it. i realise that alot of people my age and younger are losing theirs because of peer pressure. i didn't give up mine up so easiely. i look at it this way: you were born with your arm, if someone asked if they could have it would you give it to them that easily-knowing that weren't gonna get it back. same with your virginty...
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Posted: Sunday March 27th, 2005 18:48 |
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| i'm still a virgin. i'm 15, and a lot of my friends have already lost it. Sometimes I feel like damn, it's only one time and then that's it, what's so special about it - just do it. but then others, it's the opposite and you feel you shouldn't just give it away. I would never do it just to fit in, that shows no strength of character. It is fair to say, some people loose it early because they are with the right person and the time is right, however I know people that have done it just to do it before they're 16 and others who do it because all of their friends have. Personally I'd only do anything if I felt it was right for me, not because of peer pressure, that includes drinking, drugs AND sex.
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| Wait if you can. If you ask most women about their first time most of them will say it was a waste of time. Last edited on Tuesday April 5th, 2005 08:22 by Lexi
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Posted: Tuesday April 5th, 2005 12:17 |
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im 15 and im stil a virgin. i go out wiv an 18 yr old boy and iv told him dat i aint redy 2 have sex wiv him. Infact, as stupid as it may sound, iv told him dat i aint havin sex till im married. Dat way, u no dat u r losin it 4 someone truely special. Ne way, dats wat i believ. Fink bout it, if u say dat u r gonna lose it wiv a boyfriend hu u fink is special, ull probaby end up havin sex wiv 7 bf coz each boy dat cums alone in ur life is a special bf. Dats my opinion
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Posted: Sunday April 10th, 2005 18:46 |
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@ discrete
I really dont mean to shatter ur illusions but think there is a very high chance that ur boyfriend is cheating. It is very seldom that we find guys of that particluar age who are not very sexually active. I dnt wanna seem harsh but if you r not giving it to him well...i think he mayb getting it sumwhere else.
This leads me to the next point. Im 16 still a virgin..and i do have associates (not friends) who have lost their virginity at a very early age. Before they do it they get alll excited but aftermath isnt as sweet as they thought it would have been...some for bombarded with the problems of pregnancy and some shed tears becoz the guy dumps them a couple days after. When people come to me with problems like that i tend not to give them any sympathy..simply becoz they dnt deserve it!!!!! it's their own fault as they knew wat the consquences were....
I am onli 16 and i dnt think im ready ..its not your parents decision or the guys decision..its your decision becoz onli u kno wen ur physically or mentally ready for the possible outcomes of having sex. So dnt get pressured becoz u feel ur the last one
"who last laufs..laufs the best" same thing goes for sex.
oopps..i forget 1 more thing...
When i read the thread ppl keep saying u shood wait for the right guy...well...how r u going to know if that particular guy is the one?..
Most guys display the characteristics of wat gurls call 'the one' but verily verily i say unto guys will do or say anything for sum pum pum...wat if 'that special one' dnt come anytime soon' r u still gonna wait to loose ur virginty with him even if it takes fifty years?
LOSE UR VIRGINITY WITH SUM1 U LOVE AND TRUST AND SUM1 THAT RESPECTS U AND MOST OF ALL SUM1 U DNT THINK U WILL REGRET LOSING IT WITH.
PS- not bcoz u love sum1 means they r 'the one'
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Posted: Wednesday April 13th, 2005 19:49 |
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Fanks 4 dat coz come 2 fink of it, I get wat ur saying.
Wat I dnt understand is y is evry one tryin 2 lose dey virginity in dey young life, its another way of wastin der life away. Iv got a friend hu kinda got presurised into doin it coz der boi was beggin her and kept tellin her dat he loved her and all dis sh*t. Nw she dnt go out wiv him but she has sex wiv him occasionally. Nw, dat is disgustin!
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Posted: Thursday April 14th, 2005 10:04 |
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Lexi wrote: Wait if you can. If you ask most women about their first time most of them will say it was a waste of time.
Thats because guys lie to all extremes just to doit wit you. Its like they dont even know what they're saying cos all they have on their mind is that one aim and it dont matter how they get there. The women believe them and go along with it. They could be caught up in the moment too or are just after that one thing too. but most people i know were too naive and even though they knew the mans were lieing they'd still go along with it because they wanted to believe what they were saying and hopefully at the end it be tru.
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Posted: Thursday April 14th, 2005 10:24 |
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Posted: Saturday April 30th, 2005 12:56 |
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I'm a bit older so perhaps I can offer some sensible advice.
Get married before you give it away. Before you get married watch your potential spouse (for years if necessary) to make sure that:
1) They're loyal and faithful
2) You can stand them
3) They think exactly the way you do
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Posted: Monday May 2nd, 2005 19:31 |
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Fair enough, if you wanna wait until you're married to loose ur virginity then go ahead, but what happens when you have sex with ur new husband/wife and u find out that they are completly crap in bed?? A rubbish sex life can break a relationship and even a marriage, no matter how much in love u are with them. I know I couldn't risk the rest of my life with a person that I havn't been intimate with.
I'm not religious and don't see the point in waitin until marriage, but i can see why some people would rather wait. Im almost 17 and I lost mine when I was 15, not because i was pressured, but because I was ready and have no regrets.
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Posted: Tuesday May 3rd, 2005 04:34 |
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sierra mami wrote: i look at it this way: you were born with your arm, if someone asked if they could have it would you give it to them that easily-knowing that weren't gonna get it back. same with your virginty...
Ammm........Well....not quite!
You were designed to funtion throughout your lifetime with 2 arms.
We were not designed to function throughout our lifetime with our virginity, otherwise the human race would not survive.
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Posted: Tuesday May 3rd, 2005 04:43 |
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laYd33_FrEnZy wrote:
Fair enough, if you wanna wait until you're married toloose ur virginity then go ahead, but what happens when you have sex with ur new husband/wife and u find out that they are completly crap in bed??
How does losing your virginity at 15 (or indeed before marriage) ensure that your new husband/wife would not be crap in bed? Unless you loose it to the one you intend to get married to and you are testing them out before you marry them. You can hardly claim that is what you are doing at 15. In fact I very much doubt marriage is on the mind of the average 15 year old who sets out to lose his/her virginity.
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Posted: Tuesday May 3rd, 2005 09:18 |
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Backatya wrote: laYd33_FrEnZy wrote:
Fair enough, if you wanna wait until you're married toloose ur virginity then go ahead, but what happens when you have sex with ur new husband/wife and u find out that they are completly crap in bed??
How does losing your virginity at 15 (or indeed before marriage) ensure that your new husband/wife would not be crap in bed? Unless you loose it to the one you intend to get married to and you are testing them out before you marry them. You can hardly claim that is what you are doing at 15. In fact I very much doubt marriage is on the mind of the average 15 year old who sets out to lose his/her virginity.
Sex is like ice cream. It always tastes good, so there's no need to test your partner. All you need do is find someone healthy, who has your experiences and social background, who you get on with, who your parents get on with and who, like you, doesn't mind getting married young, having children, or spending the rest of their lives with one person.
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Posted: Tuesday May 3rd, 2005 09:21 |
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laYd33_FrEnZy wrote: Fair enough, if you wanna wait until you're married to loose ur virginity then go ahead, but what happens when you have sex with ur new husband/wife and u find out that they are completly crap in bed?? A rubbish sex life can break a relationship and even a marriage, no matter how much in love u are with them. I know I couldn't risk the rest of my life with a person that I havn't been intimate with.
I'm not religious and don't see the point in waitin until marriage, but i can see why some people would rather wait. Im almost 17 and I lost mine when I was 15, not because i was pressured, but because I was ready and have no regrets.
Then you better become religious and change your views, because the way you're talking you'll end up old and lonely. Young people don't realize how quick the aging process actually is... until they do.
IMO only white girls think and talk the way you do.
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Posted: Tuesday May 3rd, 2005 10:36 |
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sierra mami wrote:
i would just like to know, if people lost theirs due to peer pressure etc... or if they are holding out for that special someone.
i waited for a decent person to come along first. most of my mates lost it cos every one else was doin it. i realise that alot of people my age and younger are losing theirs because of peer pressure. i didn't give up mine up so easiely. i look at it this way: you were born with your arm, if someone asked if they could have it would you give it to them that easily-knowing that weren't gonna get it back. same with your virginty...
Hey Sierra Mami, also as someone a little older, i'll give you some advice. I say you to wait. I'm 19 and i'm still virgin. I have had boyfriend's in the past and I almost lost it due to weakness one time. In retrospect I am happy I didn't because I found out later we were incompatible, as well as it not being right, in my Christain walk. I think any one that truely cares and loves you will respect you (I don't care what any guy says about there desires needing to be met).
Sister, I say wait, i'm waiting to marriage, because it is the right thing to do in my eyes. Then I will know I was valued, loved and respected for who I was not what I did in the bedroom.
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Posted: Tuesday May 3rd, 2005 14:14 |
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| when i took my ex's virginity she only bled a little bit, is that normal or may it have been taken already ?
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Posted: Tuesday May 3rd, 2005 16:31 |
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Wat u wrote here, chocolatecookie, is exactly my views dat i was tryin 2 tell tha ppl.
Wen I tell wite ppl in my skool views bout keepin virginity b4 mariage, som of dem take it 4 a joke coz most of dem hav already done it or r lookin 4ward 2 doin soon l8r. Like som gyal said dat she wud like 2 do it on her 16th birthday. Wat a fantasy!
LION, WEN HAVE SEX 4 DA 1ST TIME, U TEND TO BLEED!
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Posted: Tuesday May 3rd, 2005 19:03 |
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Lion wrote: when i took my ex's virginity she only bled a little bit, is that normal or may it have been taken already ?
Two girls I knew also said that they bled when they first had sex, some girls do and some dont.
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Posted: Tuesday May 3rd, 2005 19:35 |
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Richard Darial wrote: laYd33_FrEnZy wrote: Fair enough, if you wanna wait until you're married to loose ur virginity then go ahead, but what happens when you have sex with ur new husband/wife and u find out that they are completly crap in bed?? A rubbish sex life can break a relationship and even a marriage, no matter how much in love u are with them. I know I couldn't risk the rest of my life with a person that I havn't been intimate with.
I'm not religious and don't see the point in waitin until marriage, but i can see why some people would rather wait. Im almost 17 and I lost mine when I was 15, not because i was pressured, but because I was ready and have no regrets.
Then you better become religious and change your views, because the way you're talking you'll end up old and lonely. Young people don't realize how quick the aging process actually is... until they do.
IMO only white girls think and talk the way you do.
Why do I need to become religious and change my views?? I have no problem with my opinions and i doubt i'll end up old and lonely.
Saying I don't see the point in waiting till marriage to have sex doesn't mean I'm advising people to jump into bed with sum1 at the first given opportunity, far from it, I just think life is all about experience and learning from your mistakes so you can become a better person. Yea I realise that saving yourself for that special sum1 can make the relationship tighter, but i would regret loosing my virginity a whole lot more if it was sum1 who i ended up waiting my whole life for, married, and then who turned out to be a complete and utter dickhead by either cheating etc. I'd rather do it when I was ready, even if it was at 15.
And I do realise how quick the ageing process is. Exactly why I have the perspective of seizing the moment when u can, but obviously there are cases of 11/12 yr olds going OTT and acting like theyre big women which I do find disturbing.
And how can u say that white girls only think and talk the way I do? Thats unfair, stereotypical and definately not true.
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*Discrete* wrote: Wat u wrote here, chocolatecookie, is exactly my views dat i was tryin 2 tell tha ppl.
Wen I tell wite ppl in my skool views bout keepin virginity b4 mariage, som of dem take it 4 a joke coz most of dem hav already done it or r lookin 4ward 2 doin soon l8r. Like som gyal said dat she wud like 2 do it on her 16th birthday. Wat a fantasy!
Nice to see that someone shares the same views!
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Posted: Wednesday May 4th, 2005 01:04 |
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laYd33_FrEnZy wrote: Richard Darial wrote: laYd33_FrEnZy wrote: Fair enough, if you wanna wait until you're married to loose ur virginity then go ahead, but what happens when you have sex with ur new husband/wife and u find out that they are completly crap in bed?? A rubbish sex life can break a relationship and even a marriage, no matter how much in love u are with them. I know I couldn't risk the rest of my life with a person that I havn't been intimate with.
I'm not religious and don't see the point in waitin until marriage, but i can see why some people would rather wait. Im almost 17 and I lost mine when I was 15, not because i was pressured, but because I was ready and have no regrets.
Then you better become religious and change your views, because the way you're talking you'll end up old and lonely. Young people don't realize how quick the aging process actually is... until they do.
IMO only white girls think and talk the way you do.
Why do I need to become religious and change my views?? I have no problem with my opinions and i doubt i'll end up old and lonely.
Saying I don't see the point in waiting till marriage to have sex doesn't mean I'm advising people to jump into bed with sum1 at the first given opportunity, far from it, I just think life is all about experience and learning from your mistakes so you can become a better person. Yea I realise that saving yourself for that special sum1 can make the relationship tighter, but i would regret loosing my virginity a whole lot more if it was sum1 who i ended up waiting my whole life for, married, and then who turned out to be a complete and utter dickhead by either cheating etc. I'd rather do it when I was ready, even if it was at 15.
And I do realise how quick the ageing process is. Exactly why I have the perspective of seizing the moment when u can, but obviously there are cases of 11/12 yr olds going OTT and acting like theyre big women which I do find disturbing.
And how can u say that white girls only think and talk the way I do? Thats unfair, stereotypical and definately not true.
You sound like a slut trying to sound reasonable.
Here's how it goes. You should wait until you get married.
If you don't want to marry an asshole you shouldn't encourge people to have sex out of wedlock because that's how assholes are created.
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Posted: Wednesday May 4th, 2005 13:06 |
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Richard Darial wrote: I'm a bit older so perhaps I can offer some sensible advice.
Get married before you give it away.
If you never get married should you stay a childless virgin for life? Not many people rushing down the aisle these days so they'd be a whole heap of virgins running round the place with their pent up sexual tension creating problems for society.
Or is it that if people knew they would not get sex unless married, more people would get married...for the sex?
Is this a good thing? People getting married primarily so they can have sex?
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Posted: Wednesday May 4th, 2005 15:37 |
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Real Roxanne wrote: Nah you dont have to wait until You get married to have sex you should just wait until you are ready. If u want to wait until marriage then good on you.
No offense but that's silly. There's a thread around about a 13 year old boy who got a 10 year old girl pregnant. Obviously they were "ready."
You need to wait until you get married for several reasons. The most important is so that your offspring have and grow up knowing two parents.
If you have sex before you get married, then you tell me. What's the point of getting married?
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