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Posted: Friday July 9th, 2004 13:44 |
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| I came out of a long distant relationship a few months ago while at uni and really did get me down and my grades. Due to the fact that he had a anotha girl while we were togther and shes pregnant. Anywayz let me stop myself before i start ranting on. I didnt write that to steer people away from having one i was just sharing my experience. (everybodyz different) The point of the post was to ask ppl if they would try a long distant relationship or would you just walk away. What are your thoughts on it please share.............
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Posted: Saturday July 10th, 2004 03:30 |
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| Generally not worth the effort unless you've been together with the person for more than two years.
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Posted: Saturday July 31st, 2004 13:13 |
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| I've got the same problem - Me and my gal have been together for three years and we recently split up, but now she wants to get back together and I'm going away this september and although I love her, I dont know whats best
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Posted: Saturday July 31st, 2004 21:54 |
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@ Alan
It really depends on how far apart u are going to be. if its not to far it can work. in my first semester we(my boyf and i) were doing fine and seeing each other every weekend. But the second semester we split and my grades went from B's to referrals which i have to complete in the summer holidays. Like i said before it depends how far apart you are. if you dont really want to get bak with her then DONT. You have 2 be really be sure or the stress from the arguements you will have will mess up your head while your at uni and you dont want that.
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Posted: Monday August 2nd, 2004 00:26 |
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mmmmm
nope... never work...
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Posted: Monday August 2nd, 2004 00:42 |
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You cant jus say no. every situation is different. if u have been with the person 4 a while and you love them. isnt it worth a try??? its betta than thinkin' what if..............
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Posted: Monday August 2nd, 2004 00:51 |
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ok...
lemme put it another way...
it is highly unlikely to work...
simple equation
young man - girlfriend + good looking woman / needs =
good looking young man with needs + chased by girls - girlfriend =
good looking girl with needs = chased by good looking men - boyfriend =
you catch my drift
highly unlikely...
but not impossible...
Last edited on Monday August 2nd, 2004 01:22 by Lucas...
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Posted: Monday August 2nd, 2004 01:00 |
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Yeh i catch ur drift. i kno what u were tryin' 2 say im not stupid no need put it in lay termz. 
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Posted: Monday August 2nd, 2004 01:20 |
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mmmm
didnt say u was...
im just in a creative mood...
so
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Posted: Friday September 3rd, 2004 14:38 |
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well, guys, thts mature.
Anyway, im in a relationship now at uni, its all good, but my partner is in the third year im in my second, my partner is an international student, we love each other (yes love plz no lecture about how i know its love, its love), any way so shes gonna go back nxt year the qestion is long distance or not.
i say not. i love her, but the whole not seeing her thing aint working out for me.the fact that i dnt know when i will see her is a problem.waiting is not the problem , being celibate is not the problem. the problem is she is not here, and a touch is one of the best ways to show feelings. u can say so much with touch that u cant with words (and vice versa) so that aint working out for me.
+i cnt ask her to keep hher life on hold and kee harbouring feelings for me and not looking else where because her mr right may still be out there. i dnt think its fair on either of us so....
what i say is this, if u love some1 let them go if when they're finished they come back to you then it was meant to be. if not then it was better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all. (do you like the play on not 1 but 2 cliches there?).
think long and hard before going in a long distance relationship, is it worth fighting to hold on to, because they are a hell of a lot more work than normal relationships.
to youi Lady96 i say he obviously didnt love you the way you loved him, move on he werent the 1.
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Posted: Sunday September 5th, 2004 05:13 |
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IF YOU REALLY WANT TO PASS WITH FLYING COLOURS, DONT ENGAGE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A FELLOW STUDENT ATTENDING THE SAME UNIVERSITY/COLLEGE AS YOU WILL GET DISTRACTED FROM YOUR STUDIES VERY OFTEN.
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Posted: Sunday December 26th, 2004 22:09 |
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| My best friend is in Uni @ Kingston and her boyfriend is an American in the US Air Force stationed in Rota, Spain and they're doing perfectly. The key to a long distance relationship is communication. You have to remember to put your friendship first and communicate as if they are your best friend.
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Posted: Saturday March 19th, 2005 16:25 |
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I believe in long distance relationships. It's all about the people who are in them and the circumstances, such as the distance and the length of time that you will be apart. As far as the people, I think that they have to really want to be in that relationship. If you and your partner have communication problems when you are five feet away, a LDR is not for you. If your partner has ever cheated on you, an LDR is not for you. I also think that a relationship needs to have a solid foundation before it turns into a LDR. For example, if you have been dating this person for a month and you aren't really sure where you stand with this person, a LDR is not going to work. I don't believe in "Open-Relationships" but some people do and it's okay with them. I don't see a problem with having a close friendship instead of a LDR if that foundation has not been built. And if you end up in the same city again and decide to get back together... Great!
I know that a good quality to have when in a LDR is the love traveling. This can get expensive, but if your relationship is that deep then you gotta do what you gotta do!
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Posted: Saturday March 19th, 2005 16:35 |
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people please at least make the attempt.
I broke up with a woman who could have been the love of my life when she went off to Uni. This was years ago but I regret the stupidity of it to this day, no lie.
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Posted: Saturday March 19th, 2005 22:16 |
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Posted: Sunday March 20th, 2005 03:57 |
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My friend is engaged to an African American guy who lives in Maryland.. i was very skeptical at the beginning but seems to be working...
You do have to be very strong, be able to handle not seeing the person you love for months on end and not be a suspicious or jealous person...
M?y friend used to call me and tell me things she thinks he might be up to when he is back home in DC. Too much stress for my liking.
Anyway, he is done with his education now and he's at the stage where he's writing his thesis so he's able to stay in London for extended period.
I still don't understand how the living arrangement is gonna work when they get married in September, cause they both want to stay put 
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Posted: Thursday March 31st, 2005 18:32 |
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I do believe long distance relationships can work, as long as both people are looking for the same thing (long term relationship, looking/thinking towards marriage, etc.)
If there's communication (phone & letters), trust, love, patiences, understanding then you'll have a successful relationship. But if you hardly get a chance to talk to your man/woman or your not sure you go trust dem or not around other men/woman then FORGET IT.
A long distance relationship can only work, if you both understand there is a greater chance that you both will see other people.----if you can handle that, then there's nothing to worry about. Some day (hopefully not more than the next 5 yrs) you both will get to be together (if its not school,job,parents,etc. in the way).
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Posted: Sunday April 10th, 2005 20:17 |
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Long distance relationships can be successful depending on the strength of the existing relationship.
I got into a relationship quite young and there were problems from the start - it was obvious i loved him much more than he loved me (but being young and naieve i didnt realise this till it was too late!!) By the time it came for me to go to uni 4 years had passed and the relationship was still shaky. We both agreed that time apart would be good for us as it will give us the time to grow independantly. Sadly after 6 years it hasn't worked out and we decided called it a day!
I think things would have worked out if our relationship was stronger, maybe we started out too young? who knows? But the fact remains that we still love each other and keep in contact.
I have a few friends that see the distance between them and their partners as nothing more than a train ride away, and so have survived happily whilst at uni.
Good communication, honesty and trust is the key to any successful relationship. Once you have these things in check (plus the love, don't forget the love!) it will survive any distance.
 
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