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Posted: Tuesday February 7th, 2006 08:10 |
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I used one with my daughter, but didn't with my first son.
My dilemma is my second son tends to use my breast as a dummy....so much so that he won't sleep without it in his mouth.
I'm mixed feeding him right now but he won't sleep with the bottle...only the breast.
He also puts his hands (thumb when he finds it!) in his mouth a lot. Hubby keeps telling him to stop, but I feel he needs some form of comfort - either a dummy, his thumb or a noonoo (rag).
Any advice welcome.
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Posted: Tuesday February 7th, 2006 11:38 |
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i had the same problem
my son would be given bottle but wanted breast fro comfort and often when he breastfed he just wanted breast in his mouth not feding just there
but i dont know how i did it but i got him completely off. they say boys are the hardest to take off breastfeeding
as for the dummy...hubby has put his foot down and wont let me give him one. the way i see it he is teething and dummy can help him a little. he has been given a dummy but only for a few minutes he spat it out after awhile.
its a tough one. but i know for sure if i am at breaking point and just need some peace i will give him a dummy i just dont want him to suck his thumb...he sucks his tongue at the mo and sometimes his lip which is worrying
i might give him one up until his 1st tooth hits the surface. dunno
Last edited on Tuesday February 7th, 2006 11:45 by LadyDay
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Posted: Wednesday February 8th, 2006 11:18 |
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I don't have a problem with dummies both by children had them because i needed some peace so it was more about me than them at the time but they get comfort from it.
You can always wien children off dummies
My sister is 33 and still stucks her thumb, shes a solicitor and has been caught in the court house sucking her thumb.
My three years old my daughter was off her dummy in the day by the time she was three and at three and a half in the night.
When there addicted to dummies they really are, if you lose it as night it will be hard for them to sleep
My cousin is 21 and still has her comfort thing she calls a silky she sucks her tougue and rubs it on her lips. It's crazy she in uni and she carries around a petty coat with silk at the bottom for comfort. 
So personlly I think that dummies are useful because I haven't had any problems getting my daughter off it and trust me she was addicted. And it does become kind of an addiction because they rely on it but as soon as she started nursery they grow into a different stage and there learning so much that they no longer have to to fall into there comfort zone.
But with my son I do get people saying why has he got a dummy he's so big, and I get frustrated because he's only two. Then they tell you how there child sucks there thumb and there 30 years old now. So in that case isn't a dummy better.
So do what you think is best 
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Posted: Wednesday February 8th, 2006 14:59 |
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| I use a dummy...my teeth haven't felt the same since.
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Posted: Thursday February 9th, 2006 21:47 |
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| @LadyVee: We didn't use a dummy for any of the children. Is it that he's feeding for long or that he isn't falling asleep while he's feeding...if that makes sense? I ask because I find that when they are getting full while they eat they soon start to dose off.
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Posted: Friday February 10th, 2006 08:17 |
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Maat,
He's almost finishing the bottle, spitting it out then demanding the breast.
He then falls asleep while feeding. For example, at 3.45am this morning (I was watching that stupid Quizmania, so I knew the time!) I gave him a bottle. He drank 3 1/2 ozs, pushed the bottle out of his mouth and cried for the breast.
He actually finished draining both breasts at 4.55am, finally going back to sleep.
Thinking about it, it does seem like he's rejecting the bottle, doesn't it? It's just that I don't hear him swallow after a while, and he does sleep on the breast, but woe betide me if I take it from him
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Posted: Friday February 10th, 2006 10:58 |
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Personally I am dead against them. Used one with my first born but not since him (3 dummyless children later). Granted, it is a personal choice but I don't see a dummy as something that adds to a child's development in anyway - though it may enable mummy and daddy to get some peace from an irritable infant.
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Posted: Monday May 1st, 2006 04:51 |
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I suggested giving a dummy to my first and four years later she still uses it! She knows she isn't allowed it outside of the home. I a comforter for her and she generally keeps it in her pocket when she playing, then she will suddenly whip it out and shove it in her mouth.
If we take it away from her she screams and shouts and starts crying. It's my fault really as my ex didn't want her to have one and I insisted because I thought it would stop her from crying for no apparent rason.
I noticed that my daughter now has a wicked set of fangs, and I think it's because she is still using the dummy even thought she has a full set of teeth. She also dosn't talk much when it's in....and if you knew her mother, you would find that amazing!
As today is the 1/5/06 I will put up a calandar in her room and circle the 31th as the day that the dummy is going in the bin and get her to cross off the days leading up to it so she has time to get used to the idea that it's going for good.
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Posted: Monday May 1st, 2006 14:36 |
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RLB wrote:
As today is the 1/5/06 I will put up a calandar in her room and circle the 31th as the day that the dummy is going in the bin and get her to cross off the days leading up to it so she has time to get used to the idea that it's going for good.
That is too cute.
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Posted: Tuesday May 2nd, 2006 01:09 |
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Well I think that a dumy is ok, my sister who is 2.5 years older than me was apparantly addicted to hers so my mum didnt give me one and 19 years and 5 months later here i am still sucking this same finger cos my mum though I looked cute!!
However I only do it when i'm sleeping, never in public. Also when I type in finger sucking in the search engine it said that when a child reaches 6 or 9 months that u shouldnt allow them to suck it. Its really messed me up cos I dont even use the finer on my right hand!!
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