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Posted: Monday May 22nd, 2006 23:57 |
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Reading all your stories has been so entertaining. And Lady Vee u have a way of making everything sound so funny!!!
Where have u gone? Id like to hear how he's doing.
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Posted: Tuesday May 23rd, 2006 00:29 |
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wow@Chique.
You haven't posted in ages
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Posted: Tuesday May 23rd, 2006 09:16 |
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Ahh u remember me thats so sweet!!! 
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Posted: Tuesday May 23rd, 2006 11:22 |
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Chique!
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Posted: Tuesday May 23rd, 2006 15:40 |
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Hello!!!
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Posted: Tuesday May 23rd, 2006 15:58 |
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Hey Chique! Long time no see! How are you??
Baby is 18 weeks now and gorgeous! He's on me right now, and his brother is behind me making him giggle! I love hearing him laugh....
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Posted: Tuesday May 23rd, 2006 16:16 |
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Only 4 and a half months and laughing wow!!!
I know babies laughing is wonderful and i cant imagine how it feels when its your own!!! My cousin has 10month old twins and when they laugh it makes me feel all goey inside!!! But they didnt start laughin till they were about 7months. Maybe its becuase they were premature and i suppose all babies are different anyway!!!
Well congratulations is all I can say to you!!! And well done!!
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Posted: Wednesday May 24th, 2006 13:08 |
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Im feeling really nervous about miscarriage now. And also worrying that it'l be healthy and ok. I suppose their normal feelings to have.
Anyone with some words of advce or wisdom about that???
So far I've had one LONG 8 week PMT!! Im sorry 4 anyone in my way!!!
And whats this about underwire bras in early pregnancy?? I only own underwied ones??!! Please advise............................
Every time the postman comes i RUN to the door. I cant wait to get my letter from the midwives!! I think I just want to have my 12week scan and hear a heart beat and then Ill know 97% of pregnancies end in a baby from that point - so Ill feel much better!!
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Posted: Wednesday May 24th, 2006 17:06 |
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Chique,
I think I'm safe in saying we've all felt as you do now.
Yes, it is scary to think about miscarriage, and I know every single twinge you feel makes you think that's it, but that's normal.
The chances are high that you will have this baby. I don't want to dwell on what may happen, but if it does (God forbid), it will be for a reason, and not because of anything you've done.
There are monitors you can buy that allow you to hear the heartbeat - try Mothercare.
I really don't think you have anything to worry about. In seven months time you'll be holding your baby, and all this worry would seem like a distant dream.
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Posted: Wednesday May 24th, 2006 19:10 |
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chique wrote:
Im feeling really nervous about miscarriage now. And also worrying that it'l be healthy and ok. I suppose their normal feelings to have.
Anyone with some words of advce or wisdom about that???
So far I've had one LONG 8 week PMT!! Im sorry 4 anyone in my way!!!
And whats this about underwire bras in early pregnancy?? I only own underwied ones??!! Please advise............................
Every time the postman comes i RUN to the door. I cant wait to get my letter from the midwives!! I think I just want to have my 12week scan and hear a heart beat and then Ill know 97% of pregnancies end in a baby from that point - so Ill feel much better!!
chique long time
i was told not to wear underwired bras...but i did all the way throughout. boobs too big to wear anything else. i need support. plus you have to by whats comfortable. i didnt have no shortage of milk
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Posted: Wednesday May 24th, 2006 20:10 |
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Hey chique good to see you again
Congratulations! Please try not to worry about miscarriage right now. It's early I know but it's probably best to just take each day as it comes....and NOT run tot the door for the post. Just stride like you weren't really waiting for it anyway LOL 
How have you been so far?
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Posted: Thursday May 25th, 2006 12:33 |
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Ah your all so sweet thank u so much 4 ur support.
Well its gonna have to be underwire bras 4 now I think LadyDay. Would rather save the pennies for more important things!!! And bras in my size aint cheep!!!
Lady Vee I think I'd feel a bit paronoid buying one of those heart beat things. I feel worried but not gonna allow myself to be that worried!!!
Maat not running for the post will be HARD!!! Ive always done it and now Im waiting 4 something its gonna be even harder!!! But Ill try and low the running and grabbing the post from the post man b4 he's even let go on the other side!!!
How have I been? Well no sickness, constiapation, indegestion, heartburn or anything similar.
But I have had a 8 week PMT and Ive felt VERY tired. Like Ill do a quarter of what I normally do and Ill be ready to sit down 4 the rest of the day. Ive also got brick boobs that hurt when their not fully supported. And I have an ache down there like I can feel all the changes and feel my womb expanding and the space round it getting smaller. Not pain but just a dull ache that makes me feel tired!!! I always got a spot durin PMT and now Ive got about 3 non budgers. I panicked that I might be getting pregnancy acne but no sign no far so I have all my fingers and toes crossed!!!
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Posted: Thursday May 25th, 2006 12:48 |
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Oh my days the post man just came (I did run - couldnt help it) but nothing 4 me. I felt like opening the door and saying are u sure thats it!!! ARGH!!!! And then i felt like cussin him! 
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Posted: Friday May 26th, 2006 18:16 |
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Hi all, just had my 22 week scan and yes, we found out the sex of the baby, but not by choice........HE obviously wanted us to know that he was a boy, if you know what I mean!! It was so funny as the Sonographer pointed out that he was lying down with both of his arms behind his head and one foot across the other, really chilling out!! Then he started getting vex when she was scanning me and decided to move into an awkward position so that nobody could see anything but his back. I had to go have a walk and see if he would turn around which he did and then when they started scanning again he had his hand over his eyes like he'd had enough of us!! But all is very well, very active little boy.
Its nice, coz now I will have one of each!! Just having problems with names tho. I was so convinced it was a girl I didnt even think of any boys names!!
He's definitly a very active baby, in fact he dont stop moving and always seems to get hyper at around 12am and then again at 5am, i wonder if this is a sign of things to come?!!
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Posted: Friday May 26th, 2006 19:25 |
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Bahamas Babe wrote: Hi all, just had my 22 week scan and yes, we found out the sex of the baby, but not by choice........HE obviously wanted us to know that he was a boy, if you know what I mean!! It was so funny as the Sonographer pointed out that he was lying down with both of his arms behind his head and one foot across the other, really chilling out!! Then he started getting vex when she was scanning me and decided to move into an awkward position so that nobody could see anything but his back. I had to go have a walk and see if he would turn around which he did and then when they started scanning again he had his hand over his eyes like he'd had enough of us!! But all is very well, very active little boy.
Its nice, coz now I will have one of each!! Just having problems with names tho. I was so convinced it was a girl I didnt even think of any boys names!!
He's definitly a very active baby, in fact he dont stop moving and always seems to get hyper at around 12am and then again at 5am, i wonder if this is a sign of things to come?!!
LOL, yet another stubborn BNV boy! There's gotta be some girls born soon or there'll be trouble!
Glad all is well. I know what you mean about the names though - there just doesn't seem to be any names that are decent without being difficult to pronounce!
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Posted: Saturday May 27th, 2006 10:19 |
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| ladies just wanna know when the baby wiggles it fingers or move an elbow into your ribcage can you feel? how does it feel?
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Posted: Saturday May 27th, 2006 13:57 |
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Agape wrote: ladies just wanna know when the baby wiggles it fingers or move an elbow into your ribcage can you feel? how does it feel?
Fingers no, elbows and knees yes, but only in the latter stages of pregnancy.
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Posted: Sunday May 28th, 2006 19:03 |
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I'm 9 weeks pregnant (first pregnancy - 20 yrs old) and terrified of having a miscarriage. I've been hearing so much about it lately.
Is this healthy for the baby. I've been crying everyday for the last 3/4 days.
Caz I'm single at the moment and feel quite lonely. I know it sounds bad. Pregnant and singe but I've been with my ex since I was 17, and we decided to call it off 2 days before I found out I was pregnant. We tried to sort it out but it aint working so I called it off for good on Thursday.
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Posted: Sunday May 28th, 2006 19:19 |
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ebony_goddess wrote: I'm 9 weeks pregnant (first pregnancy - 20 yrs old) and terrified of having a miscarriage. I've been hearing so much about it lately.
Is this healthy for the baby. I've been crying everyday for the last 3/4 days.
Caz I'm single at the moment and feel quite lonely. I know it sounds bad. Pregnant and singe but I've been with my ex since I was 17, and we decided to call it off 2 days before I found out I was pregnant. We tried to sort it out but it aint working so I called it off for good on Thursday.
Sorry to hear that, however I'm glad you have at least reached a clear understanding...however I need to ask have you reached any agreement on how you both intend to parent this child?
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Posted: Sunday May 28th, 2006 19:25 |
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Yeah. We still talk. He phones me everyday to make we're alright. He has been to all my appointments and scans with me. He can see his child whenever he likes but we just wont be in a sexual relationship.
After the birth I plan to stay at his house for the first few weeks so that he can get the benefit of seeing the child's develop as I would.
After that, he can see the child whenever he likes (as long as he supporst it )
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Posted: Sunday May 28th, 2006 19:35 |
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ebony_goddess wrote: Yeah. We still talk. He phones me everyday to make we're alright. He has been to all my appointments and scans with me. He can see his child whenever he likes but we just wont be in a sexual relationship.
After the birth I plan to stay at his house for the first few weeks so that he can get the benefit of seeing the child's develop as I would.
After that, he can see the child whenever he likes (as long as he supporst it )
Hmmmm First if I'm honest I'm not sure staying at the man's house is a bright idea, for me its sends out mixed messages...I wonder what others think on this point?
Second point...Access to the child MUST be unconditional..not conditional on providing money....If you start with the premise of money as the guiding factor I do not believe it will work..
My view is if you want a MAN to be involved in the childs life, let him bond with that child...
Next point...I'm glad that you have spoken about the parenting bit..BUT..have you really spoken..what happens when you find a next partner..or better still he finds another partner..are you willing to let him have alone time with his child with his new girlfriend, converserly what will he do when he turns up at the door to see a next man in his place?
Better to find out now than in front of the child no?
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Posted: Sunday May 28th, 2006 19:45 |
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It's not about money as such. It's about taking care of his responsibilities. If he's not working or seriously cannot afford it then that's np problem.
But he's not gonna but a new equipment for his studio every month and not look after his child financially.
He knows. I've told him. I've been to his house on Valentines day when we broke up. But I was bored. I spent 3 days there and nothing happened.
If he gets a new woman. That is fine by me. I wont have any hard feelings towards her. And if they should live together, that is fine by me. As long as she treats my child good I'm fine with it.
If he turns up and I got a man at my house. He'll have to suck it up and deal with it.
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Posted: Sunday May 28th, 2006 20:00 |
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Ebony: Please forgive my forwardness....however I feel i need to say this....I think its a huge mistake to be making judgement calls on things that are outside your realm.. You first priority is to ensure you can keep yourself and your baby healthy THATS IT!!
You cannot and in my view should not be getting into wht he does and how he does it...don't get me wrong I think he should man up for his child...BUT the thing is if you didn't check out whether he was this type of guy BEFORe getting pregnant its just a little bit too late to be asking now..
In my view this how trouble starts, man/woman start to get twist up over what the other partner is doing or NOt doing..nah sah...road to madness..road to a dysfunctional family... YOu need to set the agenda for yourself and your child and NOT hook it onto what he can or cannot do.... Do that and the rest will take care of itself...Don't and you COULD end up being another sad case of a woman putting a MAN at the centre of her world..A huge mistake..
Ps: Staying at his house has nothing to do with you having sex, for me its about sending mixed signals about the status of your relationship... it lacks clear bounderies and it will make it more difficult for the both of you to move on IMO..
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Posted: Sunday May 28th, 2006 20:10 |
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What do u mean 'making judgements outside my realms'?
1. You are telling me that if this man have the ability to supposrt his child but choose not to, I should just sit and accept that? Are you mad?
2. I'm very much focus on the health on myself and my child.
3. Are all pregnancy planned? No.
4. It's not as if mi a breed fi smaddy weh mi nuh know, as I've said. We've been together for a long time. Things happen, obviously this is not an ideal way to bring a child into the world. But as I've said before, we broke 2 days before I found out i was preggy. We tried to give it another go but it just couldn't work out. But things happen and I've just gotta deal with it the best way I know how.
But do see what you're saying tho about staying over. I hear that still.
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Posted: Sunday May 28th, 2006 20:21 |
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