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Posted: Tuesday August 1st, 2006 22:09 |
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today 1 august 2006, i lost my father
to be honest i do not know what to think
my feelings are completely different to when i lost my mum
my mum raised me my dad didnt,
me and my dad get along we were cool. we spoke when we could
when i lost my mum i was out of operation for 3 weeks. with my dad passing i feel i can carry on as normal and cope with my lost.
i am being told to take time off but will do for the funeral
dont know what to say really. if they send me home from work so be it. but i got to keep myself occupied
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Posted: Tuesday August 1st, 2006 23:26 |
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Hey LD you know I know the ball of emotions you must be feeling right now........there really aren't the words.
However, know this,my thoughts are with you and if you need to get stuff of your chest write about it here like I did with my Mum or PM if you like.
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Posted: Wednesday August 2nd, 2006 01:54 |
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Sorry to hear that Ladyday.
If you're not sure about your feelings it might help to write down what you do know, and try to understand them that way.
HTH
p.s take the time off.
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Posted: Wednesday August 2nd, 2006 05:16 |
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| really sorry to hear of your lost, my view don't try to understand it just be
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Posted: Wednesday August 2nd, 2006 09:12 |
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@LadyDay..My condolences at your loss.
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Posted: Wednesday August 2nd, 2006 09:13 |
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| Boy, i wish people didn't have to die. I wish they could just stay right here with us forever.
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Posted: Wednesday August 2nd, 2006 09:13 |
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I'm sorry to hear of your loss.
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Posted: Wednesday August 2nd, 2006 10:06 |
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Sorry to hear that, I know it can be hard, but I will advice you to be around friends who really care about you talk to them keep yourself busy and look up to God comfort
God bless you!
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Posted: Wednesday August 2nd, 2006 10:10 |
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when i lost a parent i found that the best thing for me at the time was to write and not think. i just let my emotions come out on paper and then when i was ready i read over what i had written to understand it. i still doen't understand it now but ive learnt to live each day without my dad and have found ways to communicate with him in my own way.
the feeling of loss as you know never goes you just learn how to cope to do what you have left to do on this earth.
you don't need to articulate your emotions just ride them out..
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Posted: Wednesday August 2nd, 2006 11:57 |
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i went to work today
and my manager was like well you can have the time off
i am coping well
thanks for your kind words
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Posted: Wednesday August 2nd, 2006 12:10 |
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My condolences and best wishes sister
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Posted: Wednesday August 2nd, 2006 12:21 |
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| Sorry for your loss, Sis
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Posted: Wednesday August 2nd, 2006 13:04 |
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My condolences Lady Day...
I don't have a relationship at all with my father, so I can only imagining how you might feel after losing him. I am not sure if it would even effect me if I lost him. I am imagining that you are confused about whether or not you should even grieve.
Anyhow, just want to let you know that I feel you, and I am sorry for your loss.
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Posted: Wednesday August 2nd, 2006 14:02 |
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Posted: Wednesday August 2nd, 2006 14:28 |
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may he rest in peace...
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Posted: Wednesday August 2nd, 2006 15:04 |
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*hugs*
Just go with it, you are bound to feel dips and peaks of emotion. Sing, cry, laugh, watch tv, veg out, type on here. Just make sure you surround yourself with the people who understand you.
My thoughts are with you, so sorry for your loss.
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Posted: Wednesday August 2nd, 2006 15:12 |
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Sorry for your loss. I hope you and the family can cope through this difficult time.
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Posted: Wednesday August 2nd, 2006 16:35 |
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Aww Lady Day...sorry o.
I know what you are going through because my mother just died a few weeks ago also. The loss of a parent is one of the single most disorienting experiences of life. The horizon of your life changes dramatically and substantially.
It was the experiences of the wonderful posters on this board that coped admirably with their own losses that helped me in those first few days. I remembered DM, Maffie, Jett Black, Paris and others and I knew that this difficult path was traversible.
I wasn't going to share my loss but then I saw your post and saw that we are both grieving at the same moment of time and I felt connected to you; I just wanted to reach out to you, hug you and say "my, sister, e go betta".
God bless your mother, your father, my mother and all the parents that have left us behind. I take comfort in the fact that this is the way of life and that their passing is not a perversion of nature. (at least that helps me rationalise the loss)
stay strong, LD, e go betta.
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Posted: Wednesday August 2nd, 2006 16:50 |
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@LadyDay & Happiness,
Sorry to hear this news.
Psalms 27:10
When my Father and my mother forsake me then the LORD will take me up.
He's a Father to the fatherless. - Keep your head up sis.
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Posted: Wednesday August 2nd, 2006 17:35 |
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LadyDay & Happiness,
So sorry to hear that. I'm sure it's hard even though the relationships you had with both parents were different. He is still your dad.
Go with whatever feels best and gain strength from those who are here for you now.
Deepest sympathy goes out to you and your families right now. I may not be around as much but please don't hesitate to PM if and when you need to ok
May their souls rest in Peace.
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Posted: Wednesday August 2nd, 2006 18:29 |
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LadyDay, I am sorry for your loss. May your father rest in peace.
It doesn't matter what relationship you had while he lived, he was your father nonetheless. This would affect anyone.
Take care of yourself.
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Posted: Wednesday August 2nd, 2006 19:17 |
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My condolences and best wishes also, Happiness
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Posted: Wednesday August 2nd, 2006 19:20 |
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Sorry to hear of your loss.
I'm sure your parents are in a better place.
Life on earth = struggle.
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Posted: Wednesday August 2nd, 2006 19:29 |
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Posted: Wednesday August 2nd, 2006 19:37 |
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Ladyday: saw you message this morning and I didn't really get a chance to explain myself fully as i was on my way out at the time... What I wanted to say to you was that i realise that you had really mixed feelings about your father, and I know because i went through a similar thing recently that its difficult to know what to feel and think..especially when decorum dictates that you should feel a certain way... Anyway what I am trying to say is don't try and force things or feel guilty for not feeling the way other might do... What ever your emotions are, be sure and accept that they are right for you and your circumstances..
K.......
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Posted: Wednesday August 2nd, 2006 20:29 |
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| May the lord be with you and ur family, may he help you to draw comfort and strength from ur loved ones.
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Posted: Wednesday August 2nd, 2006 20:31 |
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| Sorry for your loss Lady day...we are all thinking of you!
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