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Posted: Thursday April 26th, 2007 14:28 |
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Melissa wrote: Did you miss my two cents Vezz?
Melissa wrote: You have to wonder what kind of man allows himself to become baby father no 5 6 or 7!
Would he deserve a good women?
That wasn't the question. The question was whether a woman has the right to be with a "decent" man because she has kids .
However, in answer to your question it's up to them. But, the chances are, if the woman is already on child number 7 with father number 7, he should be using double Rough Riders to protect himself if he doesn't want to be number 8!
But that's the problem, no-one wants to wear a jimmy-hat, and when the inevitable happens it's the woman's fault......
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Posted: Thursday April 26th, 2007 15:00 |
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WOW WHAT AN ASSUMPTION
HAVE U BEEN BURNT THAT BADLY??
Why, yes, yes I have actually.
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Posted: Thursday April 26th, 2007 16:29 |
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LOL to Baby mothers and baby fathers!
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Posted: Thursday April 26th, 2007 17:46 |
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Finethings wrote: DSP wrote: Vezz. wrote: It's threads like this that make my blood boil....
We have a major problem within our society of single mothers, but not once is anyone castigating the man for dumping his seed in a woman who (according to BP anyway) is unsuitable because she already has children.
Everyone deserves happiness, and my view is anyone who is willing to take on someone who has children/no job/a limp means they love that person for who they are. You people just never gave them the chance, and for that you may just regret it.
For example, a woman left her wotless partner after many years. She had 2 children with him. She had already bought her house, and decided to study for a career. She achieved this and met the man of her dreams who encouraged her to further herself.
Now, she's married to this man, has had another child, is self-employed with a very good practice, and owns 4 houses....one of which is her's alone because her husband encouraged her not to sell it but keep it for her children.
So, to those people who turn their noses up at people who just happen to have more than one child,  , and good luck, as most women I know would do anything to better themselves, therefore dragging you up in the process.
Looking through this whole thread, I didn't get that impression from the majority of posters. You just don't like BP do you? I feel he's entitled to his opinion. Why should it bother you?
Everybody knows a large multitude of these childless women had terminated pregnancies, but that's another topic.
I dated single mothers before, I dont' think it's as much an issue as people make it out to be. The only reservations I would have about it is if I knew for sure I did not have the resources(time, energy, money) to invest in her AND her children and alot of men probably feel that way, not so much being turned off, but probably feeling inadequate for that challenge, and don't know how to communicate that... then again maybe it's just me.
"Everybody knows a large multitude of these childless women had terminated pregnancies, but that's another topic."
One thing to say
EVIDENCE
EVIDENCE
EVIDENCE
You don't believe it then you can search for it. 
Not judging them though. I've never walked in their shoes. It's their body and their decision.
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Posted: Thursday April 26th, 2007 20:10 |
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Peacemaker wrote: menzzingos wrote:
WOW WHAT AN ASSUMPTION
HAVE U BEEN BURNT THAT BADLY??
Why, yes, yes I have actually.
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THAT'S A SHAME, MOST OF MY FRIENDS ARE OLDER AND IN THEIR THIRTIES AND THE ONES WITHOUT KIDS ARE ACTUALLY ON LEVEL MORE CONSIDERATE IN TERMS OF SELF-RIGHTEOUS PREACHYNESS WHEN U NEED ADVICE, AND THEY CHOOSE TO BE SINGLE RATHER THAN STAY WITH DEADBEATS/MORONS JUST SO THEY ARE SEEN TO "HAVE A MAN" AND THAT TO ME SPEAKS VOLUMES...
OBVIOUSLY I HAVE NO EITHER ABOUT THE ONES YOU KNOW, BUT THE ONES I KNOW ARE VERY VERY COOL....(AND THEY HAVE NO SHORT-FALL IN DATE OFFERS EITHER)
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Posted: Thursday April 26th, 2007 20:32 |
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Peacemaker wrote
Women over 30 with no kids are the bigger worry.....trust me. .....Emotionally broken they are, hideously selfish, and probably had at least two abortions already. Yes.
Damn then I must be a lot of men's desire, because I'm over 30, no kids, no abortions, not emotionally broken, very open hearted, no one night stands, only on my 2nd boyfriend. Yes.
Now, watch somebody think, there's GOT to something wrong with me for breaking the mold to your stereotype, and come up with another one.
*crosses legs and relaxes*
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Posted: Thursday April 26th, 2007 22:42 |
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@Black_Power: I'm with chi and Vezz on this one. Why doesn't she deserve to be loved like anyone else?! Just because the children's fathers are not still with them does that mean no one else should be with them? That doesn't seem fair.
Women with multiple children who know they deserve a good man should maybe be advised NOT to look for one who doesn't think they deserve one
If she was suitable enough to have and raise her children by herself and this "good man" cannot deal with that then maybe he's not such a good man.
Brothers I'm in shock!! Peace, Shemsi, soul machine what happened man You can't just look at it like that. If guys are thinking like this and continuing to use or assume that these women are less of people because they have children, seriously check the situation again. So she may have been unwise in her choices who hasn't?! Was the fathers' choice to leave a wise one? Even if it was the result of a one night stand. Be careful or be prepared for the consequences.
If she is left to fend for herself and fend for her *multiple* children then of course she will become independent which to some may seem selfish. Of course they too will be hurt at the fact that it turned out that way in the first place. These things don't just disappear because he's now come on the scene and more to the point, if this man is so good what's he doing entertaining these women in the first place? Go look for the ones that really deserve you nah.
@Incognito: U fresh!
@DSP: The only reservations I would have about it is if I knew for sure I did not have the resources(time, energy, money) to invest in her AND her children and alot of men probably feel that way, not so much being turned off, but probably feeling inadequate for that challenge, and don't know how to communicate that... then again maybe it's just me. 
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Posted: Thursday April 26th, 2007 23:53 |
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Chica(go) wrote: Peacemaker wrote
Women over 30 with no kids are the bigger worry.....trust me. .....Emotionally broken they are, hideously selfish, and probably had at least two abortions already. Yes.
Damn then I must be a lot of men's desire, because I'm over 30, no kids, no abortions, not emotionally broken, very open hearted, no one night stands, only on my 2nd boyfriend. Yes.
Now, watch somebody think, there's GOT to something wrong with me for breaking the mold to your stereotype, and come up with another one.
*crosses legs and relaxes*
You must be extremely ugly then.
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Posted: Friday April 27th, 2007 01:01 |
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Chica(go) wrote: Peacemaker wrote
Women over 30 with no kids are the bigger worry.....trust me. .....Emotionally broken they are, hideously selfish, and probably had at least two abortions already. Yes.
Damn then I must be a lot of men's desire, because I'm over 30, no kids, no abortions, not emotionally broken, very open hearted, no one night stands, only on my 2nd boyfriend. Yes.
Now, watch somebody think, there's GOT to something wrong with me for breaking the mold to your stereotype, and come up with another one.
*crosses legs and relaxes*
Good for you sis and don't bother with these losers. It's nonesense like this that will have some women clinging onto worthless men instead of being alone and childfree.
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Posted: Friday April 27th, 2007 03:27 |
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Peacemaker wrote: Chica(go) wrote: Peacemaker wrote
Women over 30 with no kids are the bigger worry.....trust me. .....Emotionally broken they are, hideously selfish, and probably had at least two abortions already. Yes.
Damn then I must be a lot of men's desire, because I'm over 30, no kids, no abortions, not emotionally broken, very open hearted, no one night stands, only on my 2nd boyfriend. Yes.
Now, watch somebody think, there's GOT to something wrong with me for breaking the mold to your stereotype, and come up with another one.
*crosses legs and relaxes*
You must be extremely ugly then.
LOL! Thanks for giving me my last laugh of the day. *hug*
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Posted: Friday April 27th, 2007 03:29 |
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Aryek wrote: Chica(go) wrote: Peacemaker wrote
Women over 30 with no kids are the bigger worry.....trust me. .....Emotionally broken they are, hideously selfish, and probably had at least two abortions already. Yes.
Damn then I must be a lot of men's desire, because I'm over 30, no kids, no abortions, not emotionally broken, very open hearted, no one night stands, only on my 2nd boyfriend. Yes.
Now, watch somebody think, there's GOT to something wrong with me for breaking the mold to your stereotype, and come up with another one.
*crosses legs and relaxes*
Good for you sis and don't bother with these losers. It's nonesense like this that will have some women clinging onto worthless men instead of being alone and childfree.
*smile* Much appreciated...and I totally agree about women clinging onto men not worth their while. Peace!
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Posted: Friday April 27th, 2007 13:35 |
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Aryek wrote: Chica(go) wrote: Peacemaker wrote
Women over 30 with no kids are the bigger worry.....trust me. .....Emotionally broken they are, hideously selfish, and probably had at least two abortions already. Yes.
Damn then I must be a lot of men's desire, because I'm over 30, no kids, no abortions, not emotionally broken, very open hearted, no one night stands, only on my 2nd boyfriend. Yes.
Now, watch somebody think, there's GOT to something wrong with me for breaking the mold to your stereotype, and come up with another one.
*crosses legs and relaxes*
Good for you sis and don't bother with these losers. It's nonesense like this that will have some women clinging onto worthless men instead of being alone and childfree.
.....with everyone asking them "why can't you keep a man.." KMT
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Posted: Friday April 27th, 2007 21:59 |
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Peacemaker wrote: Chica(go) wrote: Peacemaker wrote
Women over 30 with no kids are the bigger worry.....trust me. .....Emotionally broken they are, hideously selfish, and probably had at least two abortions already. Yes.
Damn then I must be a lot of men's desire, because I'm over 30, no kids, no abortions, not emotionally broken, very open hearted, no one night stands, only on my 2nd boyfriend. Yes.
Now, watch somebody think, there's GOT to something wrong with me for breaking the mold to your stereotype, and come up with another one.
*crosses legs and relaxes*
You must be extremely ugly then.
***dies***
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Posted: Friday April 27th, 2007 22:50 |
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OK, BP I see your point. If a women was to be approached by a guy who had 6 children all by different women would they give him a chance and seriously believe it would lead to a serious relationship. I highly doubt it
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Posted: Saturday April 28th, 2007 01:02 |
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Actually I agree with the original post in this thread. Once you have a boatload of kids by various triflin brothas, you are no longer a "10" and cannot expect a 10 to fall into your lap.
Black women need to get their heads out of the cracker's ass. They pump you up with this Hollywood b-s like Pretty Woman and Anna Nicole. Yeah right, a millionaire is going to marry a ho and show her off to all his friends. The only reason Anna Nicole got that old rich cracker is because he was at death's door and probably had dementia. If you ruin your life by being irresponsible, you will attract irresponsible men.
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Posted: Saturday April 28th, 2007 03:00 |
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On the multiple babyfather front...I've rarely come across a sista with multiple fathers who cross multiple races. Had this friend who only dated red skin women. Their was this one who alraedy had offspring and after this particular relationship was over she went and had a yout for a white man. Good thing my ex pal didn't breed it too. Can you imagine, a bag of pikney for a bag of men crossing breeds....not sure how common that is.
Also grew up with some bad boys (Clapham Junction) who simply slept with pu$$y...didn't discriminate and now have several kids for several women of all races under the sun....but they'll be the first to tell you pu$$y is pu$$y.
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Posted: Saturday April 28th, 2007 03:50 |
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Incognito wrote: On the multiple babyfather front...I've rarely come across a sista with multiple fathers who cross multiple races. Had this friend who only dated red skin women. Their was this one who alraedy had offspring and after this particular relationship was over she went and had a yout for a white man. Good thing my ex pal didn't breed it too. Can you imagine, a bag of pikney for a bag of men crossing breeds....not sure how common that is.
Also grew up with some bad boys (Clapham Junction) who simply slept with pu$$y...didn't discriminate and now have several kids for several women of all races under the sun....but they'll be the first to tell you pu$$y is pu$$y.
And what about women like Shar Jackson who has all these kids and all of them are with white men. I wonder how that happened.
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Posted: Saturday April 28th, 2007 05:27 |
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Aryek wrote:
And what about women like Shar Jackson who has all these kids and all of them are with white men. I wonder how that happened.
CORRECTION @ aryek,
shar jackson has 4 kids i believe .2 are definatly black, i have seen them
and her 2 youngest are by whitee kevin. o.k, continue.
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Posted: Saturday April 28th, 2007 11:07 |
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Chica(go) wrote: Aryek wrote: Chica(go) wrote: Peacemaker wrote
Women over 30 with no kids are the bigger worry.....trust me. .....Emotionally broken they are, hideously selfish, and probably had at least two abortions already. Yes.
Damn then I must be a lot of men's desire, because I'm over 30, no kids, no abortions, not emotionally broken, very open hearted, no one night stands, only on my 2nd boyfriend. Yes.
Now, watch somebody think, there's GOT to something wrong with me for breaking the mold to your stereotype, and come up with another one.
*crosses legs and relaxes*
Good for you sis and don't bother with these losers. It's nonesense like this that will have some women clinging onto worthless men instead of being alone and childfree.
*smile* Much appreciated...and I totally agree about women clinging onto men not worth their while. Peace!
According to others as long as you hold on to the "worthless/dead beat" man in your life, you become "respectable" LmAO
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Posted: Saturday April 28th, 2007 11:12 |
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Twistedsista wrote: OK, BP I see your point. If a women was to be approached by a guy who had 6 children all by different women would they give him a chance and seriously believe it would lead to a serious relationship. I highly doubt it
what the hell is wrong with you people..why do you always wanna pretend everything is equal for men and women?..why automatically try to reverse every senario?
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Posted: Saturday April 28th, 2007 16:46 |
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Men can lie, you might meet him and you wouldnt know he has a whole bag of kids. He might never see these children so you might not either. Especially if they scattered all about the place. On the other hand if the man is known in the area you live for having multiple babymothers, then you know what you are getting into from the start. Although some women do not care and feel it is a badge of honor to boast that so and so is my babyfather.
I dont see why someone shouldnt "deserve" to have a good man. Everyone does in my opinion, but I think it all comes back to whether you feel YOU do. Its all about self esteem and how high your expectations are. Some women are happy with being someones babymother not expecting to ever be someones wife but why shouldnt you. Do we not all deserve happiness and to be treated with respect??
People make mistakes, maybe these types of women do not have very good judgment, maybe these men fill their heads up with ideas and then they are left standing with the children, people are irresponsible and dont use contraception get sweet talked by a man not wanting to bag it up or maybe they dont like using it, then a few months down the line they are pregnant. Some people dont believe in abortions. There could be all diferent types of reasons for why some women end up in situations like this. But they shouldnt be judged they might not be loose its just they have the evidence in front of them that shows they are phucking... Whereas other women dont because they get abortions or they are strict with contraception... But in my opinion they still deserve happiness and a good man.
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Posted: Saturday April 28th, 2007 20:22 |
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LOL! man i'm so glad i dont have any. I'm too damn selfish!
I just dont buy into this myth that that our culture suffers more with this problem more than any other race inparticular the white race. They have more single parents and more abortions in proportion to others. We are just highlighted more. When they shout a lie long enough and loud enough, it seems to become science fact. I personally dont have any friends that are not married, settled with their women, have multiple children or not responsible fathers. My brother is married to a woman with two kids before he had any himself and my only spar that is a so called "Baby father", was devorced by his "funny in the head and possibly was cheating with an Irish man" wife! LMAO!
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