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What is it with women with MULTIPLE KIDS who think they deserve a good man??
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 Posted: Monday April 23rd, 2007 21:58

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if you have multiple kids, by multiple baby's daddys,,, you can't expect a brotha who is fine and got it together to want your ass for more than some late night action, IF THAT!! on too many occasions in my meeting women  adventures have i come accross broads with 3+ kids who are looking for relationships but can't seem to figure out they're standing in their own way.


 



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 Posted: Monday April 23rd, 2007 22:05

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Question what should these women do?

1. get rid of their 'multiple children'?

2. settle for a life of late nights and early morning?

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 Posted: Monday April 23rd, 2007 22:07

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If you have multiple kids by multiple women, you cant a sister who is fine, makes her own money on the property ladder. To want to become baby mother number 6, you only good for late night action cos its not like you have any money to take me out is it!!!LMAO Sorry BP but you asked for it.....



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 Posted: Tuesday April 24th, 2007 04:16

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this may sound strange/stupid but i have been worried for a long time about

the decline in our numbers especialy caribbeans, and i see lots of women

with several children already who seem to be marrying/settling with decent

brothers, theyre not gonna have anymore kids or if so just the one often

and i always think why don't these men choose the single sisters and let

them have numerous children together. rationing i know but hey......

i actually find there are single no children women who NEVER have a man

and some of these multiple children having women seem to just get man

after man, not in a whoring kind of a way though theres that too,

is it just me who thinks this way?

brothers what ah gwarn? 



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 Posted: Tuesday April 24th, 2007 08:05

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Only BP can start a topic like this lol

Interesting topic nevertheless



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 Posted: Tuesday April 24th, 2007 09:23

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Just my observation but for some reason men in general believe they can and SHOULD hold women to a higher standard than themselves.


 

What if these women turned the tables on you and asked you why do you think you deserve a good woman if you've had MULTIPLE SEX PARTERNS? 



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 Posted: Tuesday April 24th, 2007 10:07

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What about if a woman has three kids by the same man,  but they divorce.......does she not deserve a good man because she has three kids?.......if not, please elaborate as to what about having three kids makes her exempt from deserving a good man?



 

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 Posted: Tuesday April 24th, 2007 20:15

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you people leave BP alone, don't you know he only dates infertile virgins! smoking-devil

seriously though, IMO opinion, it's not about "deserving" a good partner (be they male or female) it is about the human notion that everyone (bar the nastiest, most evil of people) deserve happiness.  Unfortunatly, we seem to tie up having "love" as having happiness, despite a ton of evidence to the contrary.

Now i just sound like a cynical b**ch.  Bah, humbug!



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 Posted: Tuesday April 24th, 2007 20:38

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blackbutterfly182 wrote: If you have multiple kids by multiple women, you cant a sister who is fine, makes her own money on the property ladder. To want to become baby mother number 6, you only good for late night action cos its not like you have any money to take me out is it!!!LMAO Sorry BP but you asked for it.....

BB182 - ironically, babymomma 3, 4 and 5 all said they same thing but before they knew it...they were babymommas:)

That sweet stick will have you turning your principles inside out, upside down and back to front...all end up fighting off the other five babymoomas talking how this man is yours...until babymomma 7 comes on the scene:)



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 Posted: Tuesday April 24th, 2007 20:40

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BP - got a friend whos' daughter is friends with a neighbour who's mum has 7 for 7. He's very concerned about the company but I tell him not to worry, as long as the multiple mother is a good parent it's ok:shock:

Kunjufu - stop having kids for the next squatter that comes along would help. Still, many seem to find god again and end up in church. Pastor will mind them:)

Now can you imagine the calibre of man you'll be catching if there was no welfare or housing scheme.

Have to appreciate it takes all sorts to make this world. I knew girls who were proud to be Mr Mans babymother..know your class.

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 Posted: Tuesday April 24th, 2007 20:46

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chi wrote: What about if a woman has three kids by the same man,  but they divorce.......does she not deserve a good man because she has three kids?.......if not, please elaborate as to what about having three kids makes her exempt from deserving a good man?



 


Chi - I always saw it as a beautiful thing when a man with his children meets a woman with her children and they join to become one big happy family.



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 Posted: Tuesday April 24th, 2007 21:25

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Incognito wrote: I always saw it as a beautiful thing when a man with his children meets a woman with her children and they join to become one big happy family.


all together now:

"here's a story

of a lovely lady

who was bringing up three very lovely girls..."

 



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 Posted: Tuesday April 24th, 2007 21:40

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girlfromthenc wrote: Just my observation but for some reason men in general believe they can and SHOULD hold women to a higher standard than themselves.


 

What if these women turned the tables on you and asked you why do you think you deserve a good woman if you've had MULTIPLE SEX PARTERNS? 

why not?



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 Posted: Tuesday April 24th, 2007 21:52

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I know where this brother is coming but the thing is men are not as picky as women. A fine man with a good job will still bang a woman with 3 kids but won't stay with the woman and women would much rather have part of a winner than all of a loser, even if it's just a sex thing.

Let's breakdown,

In a year, a woman that goes out regularly will probably meet around 150 guys. Now, how many of those men are decent enough (i.e. faithful, honest, not alcoholics) to form a long-term meaningful relationship with ? About 8 out the 150,

Now woman have an absolute unwavering and rigid requirement when it comes to guys : So out of those 8 men who are faithful, honest and not alcoholic they still must be over 5?11, good looking, make $40,000 a year, work out daily, and drive a jaguar. So, the odds that any of those eight men will measure up to there rigid requirements are pretty slim. In fact, they'll meet one guy in 25 years that is like this. Unfortunately, this dude is pretty damn popular, so unless they're under 30, childless and look like a model, she is not going to be the one he’s going to pick.

Another thing I would say to women is that when you were young, single and childless would you have got with a guy with 2 or 3 kids living with him and would you have been a mother to his kids (Kid who are not yours by blood) and  would you have liked it if the guy started saying "I come as package, if I you don't like it, that's your problem"

Well this how women front it to many guys and they still can't understand why few guys wanna get with them on a long term. But we guys do. Yet if roles were reversed they would not get with us.



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 Posted: Tuesday April 24th, 2007 23:55

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this happens often with men too...just you never meet or know about d kid(s) till u'll well into d man...almost a strategy to keep u hooked,but a woman would find it hard to get away with that...



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 Posted: Wednesday April 25th, 2007 06:20

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gold wrote: this may sound strange/stupid but i have been worried for a long time about

the decline in our numbers especialy caribbeans, and i see lots of women

with several children already who seem to be marrying/settling with decent

brothers, theyre not gonna have anymore kids or if so just the one often


and i always think why don't these men choose the single sisters and let

them have numerous children together. rationing i know but hey......

i actually find there are single no children women who NEVER have a man

and some of these multiple children having women seem to just get man

after man,
not in a whoring kind of a way though theres that too,

is it just me who thinks this way?

brothers what ah gwarn? 

These women have had enough life experience to know how to find a good man and keep one.  This is a reality.  People hook up because of factors outside of the fact they have children.  Some peoples best match may be a baby mother/father.

There are too many generalizations and hypotheticals in this thread.  It's much more complex than  these usual cliches and stereotypes about male/female relationship dynamics. Also factor in that not everyone(male or female) wants a partner.

It also depends on age as well. A single 42 year old man or woman will hope their partner already has or doesn't want any children...lol.

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DSP - good post. It's like when I was growing up as a late teen and had friends my age sleeping with babymothers....we used to call them MOFO's cause they were literally FOMO's. But then a dependant woman in need of a man and into her sex hard was the perfect woman for these youths with semen for brains. some of these women thought it was big man jooking them..all part of the deceit I guess - deciet as in they are only there for the sex..nothing really long term and serious. Still, as you say, it's a lot more complicated..some of these MOFO's are tomorrows African militants.

I used to work with this white dude..a unix guru who said he only dates single mums as they still cook, wear sexy underwear and dress up for you. Shallow I know but then that's all some men want. Woman gets her clit licked and even some resources for the hungry belly yout and she's kriss too...match made in heaven.

There's nuff late 30's early 40 year old women with no children taking up baby daddy's by the score. It's all a consequence of the amoral, unstructured cultureless society we live in.



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Black_Power wrote: if you have multiple kids, by multiple baby's daddys,,, you can't expect a brotha who is fine and got it together to want your ass for more than some late night action, IF THAT!! on too many occasions in my meeting women  adventures have i come accross broads with 3+ kids who are looking for relationships but can't seem to figure out they're standing in their own way.

Who are you to Judge BP, I bet it is easy to speak if you have never had something happen to you 



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Saying that, this white dude i used to work with had the same attitude with cars. He says buy em, smoke em, sell em...that way you don't have to waste money on tyres and service bills.

There's someone for everyone but I do prefer wisodm gained from observation walking on easy street than experience trodding the rocky road. There are some wise women out there but too many battle scars to show for it will turn off many. Worse the babyfathers are still in the equation.

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 Posted: Wednesday April 25th, 2007 11:36

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they dont deserve good men. but who are we to say. any man of substance wouldnt want these women anyway. except these women are rich . 1-2 kids ok. 4-5-6 kids?? you musty be kidding. think about it for a sec. if they diddnt have these kids would they be ineterested?. me personally i wouldbt do it. except she's rich or has a nice car i can use once in a while.

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blackbutterfly182 wrote: If you have multiple kids by multiple women, you cant a sister who is fine, makes her own money on the property ladder. To want to become baby mother number 6, you only good for late night action cos its not like you have any money to take me out is it!!!LMAO Sorry BP but you asked for it.....
you'd be suprised the amount of women who'd still want these men shawty!!.



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You have to wonder what kind of man allows himself to become baby father no 5 6 or 7! 

Would he deserve a good women?



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Black_Power wrote: if you have multiple kids, by multiple baby's daddys,,, you can't expect a brotha who is fine and got it together to want your ass for more than some late night action, IF THAT!! on too many occasions in my meeting women  adventures have i come accross broads with 3+ kids who are looking for relationships but can't seem to figure out they're standing in their own way.



 

Women over 30 with no kids are the bigger worry.....trust me. .....Emotionally broken they are, hideously selfish, and probably had at least two abortions already.  Yes.

 

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@ Peacemaker

LOL, I second that.  Harsh but so true!!!!

Childless men of a certain age also - childish, selfish and idle.



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I have a couple of friends like that, male and female.


Over 30, childless, arrogant, academically intelligent but so stupid!



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