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Posted: Wednesday February 8th, 2006 10:01 |
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on my travels I seem to notice that as a black male my perception from white people varies depending on who I'm with at that particular time, these days I find that i'm walking down the road with a sista they seem more attacked than in any other situation the fact that so many 'brothas' choose to date outside the culture makes it more surprising for them when they come across a same culture relationship, is this just me if so why is this the case, I remember when I went into a thai restaurant a few months back with a sista I was dating at the time and the people in ther couldn't stop staring at us and seemed to take offence to this scenario, if I'd walked in with a white girl I don't think we would have got the same response, anyone had the same feeling?
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Posted: Wednesday February 8th, 2006 10:11 |
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^^^^^^ true story
black people date black, in scares the shh out of whites shows em they big payback will come.
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Posted: Wednesday February 8th, 2006 11:02 |
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I understand the sight of a Black couple is powerful(black power2 )
But why should they be offended by choosing a parner or dating someone of your own race(which is a natural thing to do)? I know that some of them expect you to date them, but why be offended?
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Posted: Wednesday February 8th, 2006 11:12 |
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| What percentage of Black men marry White women in the UK? I thought it was 50% but couldn't find the statistics.
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Posted: Wednesday February 8th, 2006 11:19 |
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no black man i know has ever been asked who he dates or is married to.
So i don't ever trust those stats!
Plus - anyone that would be offended by same race dating has some serious issues!
And needs to be given a flying kick to the head!
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Posted: Wednesday February 8th, 2006 11:30 |
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I think the reason "black"people get this in the UK is because, they are seen only on racial rather than cultural way(for a lack of a better word thats all i can come up with)
The thing is, you would never see this kind of reaction towards ASIAN couples, because their union is perceived from a CULTURAL norm rather than a racial one. Poeple tend to have more regards and respect towards cultures and traditions which is connected to a country or continent rather than a fragmented people(which BLACK BRITISH implies.....you are just a person with no culture and therefore your identity is a MADE up one in the country which you happen to be born in or residing)
I never get those kinds of looks because i look typicaly Continental African(Ghanian i am forever told...chally..chally..LOL) White people seem to see it normal that Africans stays together and follow traditions....but when you say black, they don't see the point....after all, what culture are you on about? we all thought you were British, just a lower kind thats all.
If and when a lot of sleeping Diaspora Africans begin to wake up and reclaim their true identity, then the atittude of whites would mean nothing to them.....and prety soon whites will come to accept the norm(not that we should care what they think anyways)
I have yet to speak to any of my Continental friends or cousins and hear of this experience. I always hear it from my Diaspora friends. But what i have noticed is, those who have embraced their Africaness after a while hardly ever talks about the so called looks.
So perhaps the reason you are so bothered about it is because subconsciously you are still thinking you could be with another woman rather than an African woman. If that thought of being with any other woman than your own has never even entered your mind, you wouldn't have even been aware of the stares.......you most likely would have thought maybe the looks was because you were the most handsome couple in the room....
What i am trying to say is, its all in YOUR head mate! Change your own thoughts and see the difference.
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Posted: Wednesday February 8th, 2006 11:36 |
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AmeriJamCan wrote: What percentage of Black men marry White women in the UK? I thought it was 50% but couldn't find the statistics.
I thought we PROVED to you that those silly statistics are false?? Remember?? or do you want a recap with that thread?
I am begining to suspect that you are one of them quarter this or that people but because you haven't been totaly accepted by white society, you have no choice but to hang around black people. However your narrow mindedness cannot help itself too often, so you come up with with the most insulting and negative comments towards black people because of your own confused state of mind.
Now be gone and stop coming up with rubbish. Chuupppss
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Posted: Wednesday February 8th, 2006 12:28 |
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that's why we've got to stick together, let them know we wont be broken! it's funny because when i first started dating my boyfriend i noticed the amount of white people that would be looking at us when we went out, even more so if we were holding hands! we were talking on the phone one day and he said to me 'do you ever notice they way people stare at us when we are out together, i think it's cos we look 'good' together!' so i just said 'yeh i do actually' and i wanted to say to him no it's probably because were both black and they're thinking why are they together! and left it at that.
This bothered me because i had noticed and didnt want to say anything before because i thought it was just my imagination and i didnt want to come off as being egotistical. I think it's quite scary because it's almost as if it has become alien to date someone within your own race! but i wont apologise for that cos i love my black men! 
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Posted: Wednesday February 8th, 2006 13:39 |
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darth norman wrote: on my travels I seem to notice that as a black male my perception from white people varies depending on who I'm with at that particular time, these days I find that i'm walking down the road with a sista they seem more attacked than in any other situation the fact that so many 'brothas' choose to date outside the culture makes it more surprising for them when they come across a same culture relationship, is this just me if so why is this the case, I remember when I went into a thai restaurant a few months back with a sista I was dating at the time and the people in ther couldn't stop staring at us and seemed to take offence to this scenario, if I'd walked in with a white girl I don't think we would have got the same response, anyone had the same feeling?
Yep they do. Any display of unity is enough to instill fear in them. Plus a lot of these white females expect to be upheld as the epitome of 'beauty' by African males, therefore any brotha that upholds his African woman is enough to make any bluefoot take umbrage. Just tell them you'll never date any woman but a sista and they'll look at you as if you just admitted to being a paedophile lol. Happens all the time...but if you don't rate them on any level it wouldn't be of any concern in the least.
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Posted: Wednesday February 8th, 2006 13:39 |
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darth norman wrote: on my travels I seem to notice that as a black male my perception from white people varies depending on who I'm with at that particular time, these days I find that i'm walking down the road with a sista they seem more attacked than in any other situation the fact that so many 'brothas' choose to date outside the culture makes it more surprising for them when they come across a same culture relationship, is this just me if so why is this the case, I remember when I went into a thai restaurant a few months back with a sista I was dating at the time and the people in ther couldn't stop staring at us and seemed to take offence to this scenario, if I'd walked in with a white girl I don't think we would have got the same response, anyone had the same feeling?
Yep they do. Any display of unity is enough to instill fear in them. Plus a lot of these white females expect to be upheld as the epitome of 'beauty' by African males, therefore any brotha that upholds his African woman is enough to make any bluefoot take umbrage. Just tell them you'll never date any woman but a sista and they'll look at you as if you just admitted to being a paedophile lol. Happens all the time...but if you don't rate them on any level it wouldn't be of any concern in the least.
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Posted: Wednesday February 8th, 2006 14:00 |
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So let me get this straight!!!!
White people are offended/threatened when they see a blackman with a black women?? For real? Someone believes this? lol
I could give you this much they might feel more comfortable/less threatened if it was a mixed ralationship as they might view you as being "down" so to speak lol.
But man the things peeps waste their time thinking about is amazing. I personally have never noticed such tings, I guess I pay more attention to the girl im with than the white boy over the road ;-)
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Posted: Wednesday February 8th, 2006 14:46 |
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neo brown wrote: So let me get this straight!!!!
White people are offended/threatened when they see a blackman with a black women?? For real? Someone believes this? lol
Not as silly as it seems. Just look what happens in the average workplace when a blackman/men talk to blackwoman/men...feelings of paranioa seem to creep in especially with white colleages. What are they afraid of?
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