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Sblizzy
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Posted: Monday May 21st, 2007 23:58 |
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The position of the husband in the home and his related responsibilities are quite clearly defined in principle in Ephesians 5:22, 28-31. "Wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, even as Christ is head of the church; and he is the savior of the body. Therefore as the church is subject to Christ, so let wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wife as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for it . . . So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church . . . For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh".
It is impossible to completely deal with the responsibilities of the husband in such a short article. I am going to ask you to make some notations of scriptures and then read them at a later time. Let us start with some scriptures that deal with the husband as head of the house. Genesis 3:16, says in part "her desire shall be to man". Then Eph. 5:23, "husband is head of the wife"; then I Tim. 2:11-12, "She shall have no dominion over a man". Now don't stop at these verses and think that the only responsibility of the husband is to be HEAD of the house. By the way, head does not mean master as in a master-slave relationship, nor does it mean a relationship like a general to a private in the army. It is more like a partnership where one is the leader, guide, director. Now consider this. Can you think of any decision that a husband should make WITHOUT consulting or considering his wife and her wishes? I cannot!
Now let us consider some other responsibilities. The husband is to love his wife above all other human beings. Consider Eph. 5:25 and 28; and Col. 3:19. These passages teach that the husband is to be considerate and tender. The verses in Ephesians 5 teach that the husband is to cherish his wife. This means that she is to be treated with tenderness and affection. This would mean that since love must be fed, there is to be a warm demonstrative love relationship. The husband has the responsibility of not only demonstrating his love and concern, but telling her. He should not sit in such self-absorption that he does not talk with her and communicate with her socially, mentally, verbally and physically. The husband will demonstrate his love for his wife in other ways, rather than just at the time of sexual relationship. If this is the only time that affection and consideration is shown, then a wife will get the idea that all a husband is interested in is her body and that she is merely a sex object.
I Peter 3:7, teaches that the husband is to honor his wife. She gave up her name to take yours. Honor means that you should show her respect and this involves courtesy, consideration and emotional support. Be sure that as her husband that you do not hold her up to ridicule in public by the cutting remarks that you make. She wears YOUR name and is to viewed as part of your body. She is not perfect and you are aware of this. Do not expect perfection, but as Ephesians 4:32 teaches, "forbear one another". This means to be gentle toward her. Control of temper, abstaining from physical violence and restraining a sharp tongue that makes one feel so inferior - are ways by which you can exhibit forbearance.
Paul presents another responsibility of husbands in I Timothy 5:8 - "But if any provide not for his own, especially for those of his own household, he hath denied the faith and is worse than an infidel". Marriage is a financial venture and the husband has a responsibility to finance or support or provide for his family. This is talking about money. As a husband, your earnings are not your own but belong to your wife as well and your children.
Another responsibility of the husband is to be active in the area of the discipline and rearing of the children. When the Apostle Paul was giving the qualifications for elders and deacons, he included this statement that is certainly applicable to all men: I Timothy 3:3-5, and he speaks of ruling your own house. Now this discipline should be with love. Many times discipline is administered without love. The Book says in Ephesians 6:4, "Fathers provoke not your children to wrath", and again in Colossians 3:21, "Fathers provoke not your children to anger lest they be discouraged". The husband therefore does not leave all the discipline up to his wife, but shares in the molding and direction of your children. It is not a proper division of responsibility to say that as the husband I will provide the living and the wife is to take care of the house and children. The husband has duties even after his days work is done by which lie is earning a living to support his family.
The Christian father should set an example for his family as he earns a living, directs the household with concern for each member, and as he fulfills his role as head of the house. He should see to their spiritual development by the life he lives and the direction in which he leads his family.
Your wife is a part of your body - you are a part of each other. For this reason Paul said, "Love your wife". He didn't say, if you want to. As you love her, you love yourself and are fulfilling the role that the Lord wanted you to have
Last edited on Monday May 21st, 2007 23:59 by Sblizzy
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Posted: Tuesday May 22nd, 2007 00:02 |
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"Wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, even as Christ is head of the church; and he is the savior of the body.
Sblizzy & other Christians...Ok that sounds very nice..however can someone discuss how the above statement can be put into practice in the 21st century..by MEN as the 'head' and women who are supposed to 'submit'..
I will be curious to read the responses on this
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Posted: Tuesday May 22nd, 2007 00:10 |
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| I would be the first to tell you that todays man has weakened tremendously. Many are not even in the home for reasons of jail or just not caring. However you can still have a traditional family in the 21st century. If the man takes his rightful place and do what he is supposed to do, everything else will fall into place!!! Last edited on Tuesday May 22nd, 2007 00:11 by Sblizzy
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Posted: Tuesday May 22nd, 2007 00:23 |
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Sblizzy: interesting..however I'm gonna push you to visualise for us..the role of man in the 21st century.. and the Role of his wife according to the scripts you posted.....I'm loooking for some to make sense of the text posted above..
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Posted: Tuesday May 22nd, 2007 02:12 |
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| See, God's word never changes. Man is supposed to let God's word rule his household. Even in the 21st century. The position of the man is supposed to teach and instill God's word in his house.
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Posted: Thursday May 24th, 2007 08:35 |
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Kunjufu wrote: "Wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, even as Christ is head of the church; and he is the savior of the body.
Sblizzy & other Christians...Ok that sounds very nice..however can someone discuss how the above statement can be put into practice in the 21st century..by MEN as the 'head' and women who are supposed to 'submit'..
I will be curious to read the responses on this
Scenario : a couple is on holiday, driving on a foreign road. The husband is behind the steering wheel. The wife has the road map in her hand and she is obviously in the passenger seat. The couple discuss the best possible routes as they embark on the journey ahead; but ultimately it is the husband who is behind the steering wheel, hence if there are potholes on the road or wild animals dashing into the road it is his duty to sway the car. If the children in the back start crying, it will be the woman to attend to them and also to provide snacks or medical supplies for her family as they journey. If there is an accident caused by them, it will be the "head's duty" the husband to resolve. Remeber that the head is dependent on the body and the reverse is true.
  
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THE MEANING OF SUBMISSION
(A Study of Ephesians 5:22)
The word submissive translates the Greek word hupotasso, which is a cognate of the preposition hupo, meaning "under" and the stem tasso, meaning "to arrange." In the first century, this word was used as a military term as well as that which described the behavior of a servant to his master (Fritz Rienecker and Cleon Rogers, Linguistic Key to the Greek New Testament, p. 538. Others define hupotasso to mean subordinate (F. Wilbur Gingrich, Shorter Lexicon of the Greek New Testament, p. 208), which is proper as well. In any case, submission connotes a relationship of one who leads and another who follows. It "demands readiness to renounce one's own will for the sake of others . . . and to give precedence to others" (Gerhard Kittel, ed., Theological Dictionary of New Testament Theology, 8:45. It certainly involves deference (i.e., polite regard for someone else's wishes, ideas, etc.) as used in Word Biblical Commentary (J. Ramsey Michaels, Word Biblical Commentary: 1 & 2 Peter, p. 167.
This submission emanates from the wife. It is not forced by her husband as a man might beat a beast into compliance, but rather it is an action displayed from a free will. Scripture does not exist that would imply that a husband is allowed to force, slap, beat, kick, or threaten his wife into submission. Just the opposite is true. (Matt. 5-7; Eph. 4:29-32; 5:22-33; 1 Pet. 3:7; et al) In fact, to abuse a wife is sin. A man who believes he can physically force his wife into submission is mistaken, as she will only acquiesce out of fear for her physical well-being.
Submission as illustrated in 1 Peter 3:5-6, where it is said that "Sarah obeyed Abraham calling him Lord." Her respect for her husband was manifested by giving him a customary/cultural title. This pronouncement from Genesis 18:12 displayed her attitude and her willingness to be placed under the direction of her husband. Women today who also adorn themselves ". . . in subjection unto their own husbands" are spiritually Sarah's daughters (1 Pet. 3:5-6). Indeed, this comparison is a great and noble compliment, especially as contrasted with the worldly "icons" for women in the twentieth century. The women of the world are boisterous and ungodly, while Sarah was meek (i.e., strength grown tender) and chaste. Sarah was courageous and willing to submit while the ungodly women of today are weak and rebellious. A submissive wife does not usurp authority (1 Tim. 2:12) nor seek to be the boss, "wear the pants," nor seek to dominate. Conversely, she must support, follow, and respect her husband.
Submission does not, however, mean that she is inferior or less important. It does not mean she should be uneducated or intellectually inept. It does not mean she never has an opinion, suggestion, or strong will. It does not preclude her expressing her thoughts, desires, ideas, and aspirations. It does not eliminate her industry, contributions, and "savvy" in helping the home, church, community, and nation (Prov. 31). Submission does not negate her influence (1 Tim. 2:15) nor shackle her abilities and talents. Within parameters (and men are restricted in some ways as well), she can teach, counsel, pray, guide, and rule (1 Tim. 5). Submission to her husband does not demand that she disobey the laws of God nor tolerate violence and lawlessness. Submission is not slavery.
Finally, in verse 22 of our text we learn that the submitting is to be done "as unto the Lord." Lord here is not a reference to husbands, for it would have to read kurioi (plural), but rather to "the" (definite article) Lord (singular), that is Christ. Herein is given the motivation. Her subordination to her husband is to be seen as her subjection to Christ. For Christian wives, this is a way to serve Christ. They must not reject this authority. When the Israelites rejected the prophet Samuel's authority in favor of an earthly king, God told Samuel that "they have not rejected thee, but they have rejected me, that I should not reign over them." (1 Sam. 8:7) Similarly, when wives are disobedient to their husbands, they are rejecting God because Christ's reign over wives demands that they be submissive to the God-ordained authority of the husband in the home.
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