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Posted: Thursday June 16th, 2005 12:46 |
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Hi Peeps,
i jus wanted to have a little debate about sex, because it seems as though people are losing their virginity at a younger. However, there must be those who have still yet indulge in promiscuity. Would you, if u were, admit to being a virgin?
Have you been in a relationship, and the girl/boy that ur not a virgin, only to be discovered later on, or only to then run when it came to the point of having sex?
What are you views in general...?
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Posted: Thursday June 16th, 2005 16:40 |
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| Erm, yeah if I was a virgin I would tell people if they asked. I woudn't go about telling everyone 'hey I'm a virgin' cos thats a bit dumb, no one needs to know. And if i was a virgin and was going out with someone and we was about to have sex, yeah I would tell them that i was a virgin. Dunno why people make such a big fuss about virginity. Its just society making people have sex before they are ready to.
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Posted: Thursday June 16th, 2005 20:59 |
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| I would hav no problems tellin anyone i woz a virgin coz i think itz a good thing! Although im not a virgin i would prefer to be one coz i dont belive in sex b4 marriage (Im a Christian)- although i kno thatz (a lot) harder said than done. But being a virgin is something to be proud of (whether ur doin it for religious reasons or just waitin for the right person), it is something to be admired. Of course sum people may feel they have found the right person at a young age like 17 (where it is still seen as quite uncool to still be a virgin) and i think as long as they hav lost it to please themselves and not to giv in to peer pressure or curiousity (...not sayin i werent curious..) and because they think they hav found the right person (even if they later find themselves to be wrong about that person later on...), that they will be likely to be happier with the memory of how they lost thet're virginity. BUT as I say I think the best thing is to wait till u married!..but i kno not every1 will agree
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Posted: Wednesday June 22nd, 2005 12:44 |
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| Wen i was a virgin i wasnt ashamed to admit it, i think with boys its a big deal if you a virgin but if your a girl (with ya head screwed on) you are proud to be one !
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Posted: Wednesday June 22nd, 2005 13:50 |
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Sista musiq wrote: they will be likely to be happier with the memory of how they lost thet're virginity. BUT as I say I think the best thing is to wait till u married!..but i kno not every1 will agree
@ Sista musiq
 Ur....mmmm But if you think it is the best thing to wait until you are married and you claim not to believe in sex before marriage...How come you are not a virgin? You can't believe in it that much.
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Posted: Wednesday June 22nd, 2005 22:39 |
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@ Backatya
As I said I think its is a good think to be a virgin and I do not believe in sex before marriage. I did not say I woz able to do no wrong. Now not being a virgin and saying its a good thing to stay one till your married does not mean I think less off myself or anyone else who is not a virgin specifically coz they're not a virgin.
In my post I stated that i would PREFER to be a virgin obviously meaning I am NOT virgin and regret losing my virginity. I don't understand why you think I can't still believe in it and not be a virgin - im not sexually active now and that reason is whilst i don't believe in sex before marriage i haven't tried to justify it within myself and say "well..might as well keep doin wot im doin...it dont matter no more".
Im sure that you may hav done something that may go against something you belive and be dissappointed in yourself. If you haven't, I'll let you know now that are many there are many people out there who have.
I accept that im not a virgin and love myself and at the same choose not to throwaway my beliefs because of that.
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Posted: Thursday June 23rd, 2005 00:40 |
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true wrote: Dunno why people make such a big fuss about virginity. Its just society making people have sex before they are ready to.
Yeah...its the whole "double standard" phenomena
virginity = "bad" for men
virginity = "good" for women
So it is beneficial for a woman to tell the world that she is a virgin (look at the pop princesses who have made it a point to inform the world of their virginity: Britney, Jessica, Beyonce) They represent the "perfect wife" material. While guys are assumed to be gay or "uncool" if they haven't had sex by their late teen years.
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Posted: Monday June 27th, 2005 13:14 |
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Sista musiq wrote: @ Backatya
As I said I think its is a good think to be a virgin and I do not believe in sex before marriage. I did not say I woz able to do no wrong. Now not being a virgin and saying its a good thing to stay one till your married does not mean I think less off myself or anyone else who is not a virgin specifically coz they're not a virgin.
In my post I stated that i would PREFER to be a virgin obviously meaning I am NOT virgin and regret losing my virginity. I don't understand why you think I can't still believe in it and not be a virgin - im not sexually active now and that reason is whilst i don't believe in sex before marriage i haven't tried to justify it within myself and say "well..might as well keep doin wot im doin...it dont matter no more".
Im sure that you may hav done something that may go against something you belive and be dissappointed in yourself. If you haven't, I'll let you know now that are many there are many people out there who have.
I accept that im not a virgin and love myself and at the same choose not to throwaway my beliefs because of that.
@ Sista musiq
Ah, now I get you. You are really saying you believe in it now but did not believe in it to the same degree at the time you made the mistake of losing your virginity. Yeah that makes sense.
There are a lot of things which with hindsight we wish we had done or not done. That is not to say that we cannot hold them as principles after the event. Sure, you cannot be a virgin ever again but that does not mean to say you cannot hold as a principle, and proclaim as such, the belief that sex should be left until after marriage. Where it would become a nonsense is where you say it and then continue to have sex outside of marriage. Then it would become hypocritical.
You are right, there a principles which I claim to believe in but which in the past I had erred on. However, now that I claim to believe in them I do so on the basis that I do not err on them again, otherwise I it seems a lie to say believe in them....unless I am saying I believe in them for others but not for me 
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Posted: Tuesday June 28th, 2005 02:01 |
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Ah, now I get you. You are really saying you believe in it now but did not believe in it to the same degree at the time you made the mistake of losing your virginity. Yeah that makes sense.
Cool Backatya...Ishould've hav been a bi clearer before...
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Posted: Friday July 8th, 2005 10:00 |
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i was 18, and I thought That Im the last one, thy start so early with sex 14-16
In this age I had other interests
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Posted: Wednesday September 28th, 2005 07:21 |
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| I was almost 19 years old when I lost my virginity! The girl I was with was 26 years old, so I guess I made up for lost time. I was pretty embarass that I stayed a virgin for so long and I hid it all through high school.
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Posted: Wednesday September 28th, 2005 12:17 |
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im happy dat im a VIRGIN . if some 1 asked me i would say dat i was too because then if i have a bf and i tell him im not a virgin then i kno dat hes not goin out wit me cause he likes me its cause he wants 2 have sex. so i rather not embarres ma self. . y doesnt everbody just stick 2 kissing???
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Posted: Saturday October 8th, 2005 00:53 |
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| I'm almost seventeen and still a virgin. My older sister lost her virginity at nineteen, and my younger one is fifteen, so hopefully she hasnt done anything yet (I dont think she has). My parents brainwashed us all into waiting for "the one," which isn't necessarily who we're going to marry (hopefully he will be) but yeah, I admit it. I don't go around shouting it, but if I'm having a convo about sex, yeah, I admit it.
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Posted: Tuesday October 11th, 2005 14:49 |
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I ADMITTED THIS IN A CONVERSATION WITH SOME BOYS IN MY CLASS AND THEY WERE SO SHOCKED. I THINK ITS SO SAD THAT PEOPLE CANT EVEN BELIEVE THAT A GIRLS A VIRGIN ANY MORE.
I DONT ACTUALLY SEE ANY RELEVANCE IN BEING A VIRGIN LIKE OTHER PEOPLE DO. ITS MORE ABOUT THE ATTITUDE, AND THE PART SEX WILL PLAY IN YOUR LIFE. PLUS MAKING ABSOLUTELY SURE YOURE HAVING SEX FOR THE RIGHT REASON.
I SAW A POLL THE OTHER DAY THAT SAID 8/10 PEOPLE REGRET THEIR FIRST SEXUAL EXPERIANCE.
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Posted: Thursday October 13th, 2005 04:12 |
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| There has been and always will be that double standard between the sexes and as women I think we should just get over it... A guy that screws twelve chicks in one night will always be a stud,while a woman that sleeps with two different guys in a month will always be a whore,in the eyes of society anyway.Life is not fair ladies .....Alot of women of all races still feel as though they have to front when it comes to their sexuality.It will always be that way ;we as women have to change the way we let men control that part of us at times... The minute we stop letting men make us feel dirty for doing the same thing they have done for years is when women will reach true sexual freedom! Last edited on Friday October 14th, 2005 05:50 by midwestgirl
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Posted: Thursday October 13th, 2005 05:51 |
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| Whatever excuse u feel justifys acting like a whore is fine with me.
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Posted: Thursday October 13th, 2005 16:24 |
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americanboy wrote: Whatever excuse u feel justifys acting like a whore is fine with me.
Exactly. Just because dudes are doing it doesn't give it any more right. Its wrong either way you look at it so stop being upset because men are doing WRONG and getting praised for it. Be proud that women still respect themselves enough to not let being a whore a 'good' thing.
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Posted: Thursday October 13th, 2005 19:52 |
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i'm still a virgin and i'm so proud.
i'm nearly 17 and last year it seemed like everyone was in a rush to lose "it". it seemed like every other day i was being told of someone who had lost their virginity, and i felt like i was the only virgin in school. i know this sounds really bad, but because of all the peer-pressure, i started making goals for my self for when i should lose my virginity. but whilst the craze died down(i call it craze, because it seemed like everyone was doing it), a lot girls were telling me the really regretted their first time. now i'm waiting for as long as possible until i feel that i am ready. guys find it a turn on when i say i'm a virgin because they think that they're gonna be the ones to take it, but the novelty wears off the f***king pr***s (excuse the pun) when they realise that they ain't gettin any 
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Posted: Friday October 14th, 2005 06:38 |
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americanboy wrote: Whatever excuse u feel justifys acting like a whore is fine with me. LADIES : The quote above is my point exactly ; we will never have the freedom to make our own choices either way without ridicule cause of the mentality of guys that make those kinds of judgements and statements......I am quite sure he's not a chaste chior boy himself, and if so ;thats his business!! We should have the same right to make those life paths for ourselves without being called, or treated like "ladies of the night" or "squares'' cause we choose not to wait till our wedding night,or save it for someone special !!!!!!P.S; Not everybody is meant to get married or be in an exculsive relationship, so do those folks have to go to the grave virgins too ??? ONLY IF THEY WERE BORN FEMALE!!
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Posted: Sunday January 15th, 2006 20:15 |
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this is a gud topic, and its interesting to see the various opinion us peeps have. im 20 now and im a virgin. i admit that it can make me feel self concious when a girl asks if i am becausei know that the expected answer is 'no', but i also know that its a good thing that i still am. any decent girl would respect that even if it is a shock, rather than laugh at it, and thats what usually happens. dont get me wrong, i have feelings just like the next man, but as im a christian i understand that im required to live a certain way, and its basically the opposie way to how modern culture might live.
i really respect people my age who keep their virginity in spite of being surrounded by a society in which if ur a virgin at 20, ur wierd.
Bless, Joe
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Posted: Monday January 16th, 2006 01:47 |
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Seeing this issue even being discussed just annoys me. Thankyou Timeline, nip it in the bud, before the poison spreads. Americanboy...just shutup. The whole concept of virginity and it's value stem from the basis of men wanting to control everything concerning females, and one of the many ways they try and make themseves feel like men.
Masculinity is defined by what it is in relation to femininity in many ways. Girls... don't let men govern your behaviour in their desperate attempt to feel like 'men' and for control. Just one of the ways there is 'a standard for females' and none at all for men.
They want to control females and themselves... do what the hell they like. The way that males sit on their a}ses juding and sizing up females, assesing and judging, 'our supposed worth'. But a male does not have to do anything to be 'a man'.. he automatically 'qualifies'. Why? It's obvious... a system made by 'THEM' for 'THEM'.
I have never seen a more disgusting and disgraceful example of the abstraction of "sloth". (PURSES LIPS) (SIGHS)
Whether or not you have sex is your business. The thing is to respect yourself. Tis all. I mean really, the main reason that a female would be wise to be well kept is the fact that we are just better then men. Especially concerning our motives for any type of relationships/relations there are many more good, decent overall damn well near divine females than there are even, 'average men', let alone the supposed 'dream male' that is endlessly discussed by millions upon millions of younger female's generations, searched for by the next generation up, given up on, by the next generation up, the next generation up from that 'settle', the next generation from that still searching, and then all of the generations up from that laughing at their former ideas and recognising men in all of their , (COUGHS) ahem, ahem, 'true...'err, ahem, '...glory' and ...well... the err... the truth... then wishing that they had lived according to THEIR principles as it is THEIR lives.
I increasingly feel that too many females govern their lives by what men think, and too a large extent underestimate how much of their reality stems from men's influence. Although I see the logic and their desire 'to be liked', many of the things they do and confrom to, are just crazy e.g. too many females concentrating on a fixed idea of 'when their lives are complete', if you catch my drift and then only later in life, wish they had done this and done that.
Why is it that men's existence is defined by them achieving, gaining access to certain things in life and 'being free'...
.. and the females, that one, of being controlled, 'accepted' and what they can achieve through men... whom really need 'us more'?...
The way females have to be 'special' and unique in a 'man's way'...as for females there is only one type of unique....
... doing/being what men want...
but a male's uniqueness, if ever, is defined by what 'they want' and the real definition of being unique rather than the 'accepted unique'...the 'permitted unique'... so much more scope and allowed to be so much more real...
...any ridiculous display of emotion justified or to their credit... just because many males, do nt express themelves.. many expect a 'well done' for when they do.
.... under estimated, under valued, treated as pawns in a man's world , rather than it's players?...
... so many barriers...
...just respect yourself and your beliefs, and don't let anyone tell you what to do. especially men...
... because everyone knows.. that when 'they' speak for others....
... really...
... they only speak for themselves.
Enough is enough.
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Posted: Tuesday January 17th, 2006 05:43 |
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I'm a virgin and proud of it. No point in being a hoe and glorfied self defeating lifestyles.
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Posted: Tuesday April 25th, 2006 00:49 |
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VIRGIN and proud!
I love my virginity!
I am saving it for someone who deserves it
Damn i must say its VERY hard being a virgin let alone a teenager in this world today
but I am strong and proud
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Posted: Friday June 9th, 2006 20:42 |
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i think guys that are virgins are adorable..
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Posted: Saturday June 10th, 2006 12:04 |
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TheresaMarie wrote: i think guys that are virgins are adorable..
dats d reason y we dun say nutin
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