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Posted: Saturday May 5th, 2007 19:09 |
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I remember my friend tellling me he visited one of his pals and his pals girlfriend was home with him. The girlfriend was a mutual acquaintence he knew from college but as soon as she exchanged hellos the pal gave her one look and told her to go upstairs. The pal told my friend he don't trust no man around his woman.
Saw another man cold up his girlfriend outside a party because she was talking to a nother man. He simply looked at her and said 'go inside the yard'. It was embarrassing for her so others tried to explain to the man it was really nothing to which he replied yeah, nothing becomes a number, then a number becomes a f**k.
I know another notorious womaniser yet you never see any of his women or babymothers out in public, they are all kept under what I can only call house arrest.
Me personally my woman is my woman or she isn't, no big deal. And because I've never been a cheater or womaniser per se I guess this kind of thiought process is not part of my natural consciousness.
So, brothas, how insecure are you?
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Posted: Saturday May 5th, 2007 19:20 |
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depends Ive been known to course up a few brothas over the years with my girlfriend but only when they overstep the mark....I usally let her deal with it but if they carry on and make me get up then you know they haffe get slap
side orders however I not really botherd bout....its like the other week I was out with my side dish and 3 bruddas wanted her...I didnt really give a sh*t...she was taking drinks off them and bringin them over to my table...I was more worried about f they spike her drink am I gonna get it by accident..
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Posted: Monday May 7th, 2007 20:18 |
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Posted: Tuesday May 8th, 2007 05:02 |
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A grown woman does not need protection. Fighting in public over a woman is a sign of dumbness, uncouthness, and downright immaturity, so is trying to tell your woman who she can and cannot talk to.
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Posted: Tuesday May 8th, 2007 12:54 |
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There is 'being protective', 'being possessive' and being downright 'insecure' and they are not necessarily the same thing.
A man should always be ready to 'protect' his lady from harm, especially in situations where she could be out of her depth in handly (e.g. an aggressive male that doesn't take no for an answer), but to be so afraid at the mere thought of her talking to a next man, is in the 'possesive' and 'insecure' realm in my book.
I do not fear my other half 'talking' to another man as I have no fears of her overstepping the boundaries, but I accept that there may be a time I have to step in, in a situation where he does.
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Posted: Tuesday May 8th, 2007 15:50 |
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If men to drive a women( in this case) away from them?, just put a choke hold on them. Now every man will have a little jealously. that is reality,but it only becomes a problem when the man reacts strongly. Men like that scares me. If they tell you to go upstairs or something in that realm, that become a potential for danger. That is a sign of possessive, insecure and maybe abusive man. Eventually, he will isolate you family and friends. I try my best to stay away from men like that.
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Posted: Tuesday May 8th, 2007 16:11 |
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In my opinion, it comes down to respect. If my woman truly respects me, then she will not be brushing up with other brothers in a way that can lead to conflict. The woman has to respect her man enough to keep it known that her loyalty is with her man. It is only a sign of immaturity and insecurity for a man to have to continually assert his protection/possession over his woman. As long as she has that respect, then I don't care who she is out with or talks to...she is a grown woman.
Now if she has that respect for me, but another brother oversteps that, then that is the problem. Now, this brother is disrespecting me AND my woman. I let my woman handle it first, but if a brother persists then that is when it is disrespect and I have to post the dude up.
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Posted: Tuesday May 8th, 2007 19:49 |
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Black_Power wrote: depends Ive been known to course up a few brothas over the years with my girlfriend but only when they overstep the mark....I usally let her deal with it but if they carry on and make me get up then you know they haffe get slap
side orders however I not really botherd bout....its like the other week I was out with my side dish and 3 bruddas wanted her...I didnt really give a sh*t...she was taking drinks off them and bringin them over to my table...I was more worried about f they spike her drink am I gonna get it by accident..
"I was out with my side dish"
please explain...
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Posted: Tuesday May 8th, 2007 23:32 |
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no.. I am never possesive... or protective
any woman i date is very attractive ...so obviously it comes with the terittory
because believe if i am with my girl and another woman approaches me i like to deal with it myself... i dont need anyone watching out for me in that sense...
so if a man is talking to my girl.. fine...
however is she says there is my man over there.. and i happen to overhear and look up and our eyes make four me and dude... and he is still trying it.... then he is trying to slight my honour... and that cannot be done without serious consequences. its happened countless times ..soon as dudes eyes meet mine its always "respect man "..and the situation fizzless... the eyes never lie.. never had any problem ... after our eyes make 4.
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Posted: Wednesday May 9th, 2007 21:28 |
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A lot of men like this are simply reflecting how they themselves are with women i.e. don't let nuttin pass and in some cases are sexing other mens women as well. Remember speaking women and sex talk with one college dude back in the day and believe it or not his over-protective attitude was for no other reason than his belief that women are generally dim. I guess some would say what more evidence does one need to prove that fact if so many have fallen for him
Also heard of this girl who has found herself at the mercy of a gangsta - wants out but sh!t scared...let's hope at least the sex is good.
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Posted: Saturday May 12th, 2007 20:54 |
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Posted: Sunday May 13th, 2007 10:21 |
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chocolateprincess - I suspect the embarrassment is a lesser evil to the alternative.
In the first incident my girl was pretty like flowers but scandalous as hell. Don't think there was too much happening upstairs (in the brain). last I heard shes' on four kids for three blokes....and those are just the ones she had babies for... Anybody man who has to rule their women by fear is questionable but those men will be the first to say you really don't know women....which to me is like saying all women are the same...or at least the one or two who are not are the exception to the rule.
Speaking to the fraternity and it seems to be a common understanding that most insecure men have been burned by a woman...they aint going through that again. Womanising is also another indicator of insecurity which men have turned around to look like a bravado of sexual prowess.
Last edited on Sunday May 13th, 2007 10:23 by Incognito
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