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Posted: Monday April 30th, 2007 16:19 |
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First and foremost, do not think that I wrote this. I saw this posted someplace else on the web, and thought it would be interesting what people thought about this...address the message, not the messenger
***I'm filling in for BlackPower with these kind of threads***
1) Baby Damage - Birth has a traumatic effect on the female form. Pregnancy leaves stretch marks, saggy breasts, and c-section scars. I've also heard that the punany is even stretched out and it isn't the same anymore. Then there's the weight gain. Most women NEVER LOSE IT or they never get their former hot shape back.
2) "I Can't Find A Baby Sitter" - Women will use this as an excuse to get out of date with you or they may legitmately can't find a baby sitter. Either case it isn't your problem and you shouldn't have to deal with it.
3) Babies Interrupt Sex - I've had this happen to me. I was banging a woman and her kid interrupted my sex. Needless to say I was pissed. If some kid is going to interrupt the meanest head you've ever gotten, that kid should have your last name.
4) Baby's Daddy - When your dealing with a woman and your getting know her, you shouldn't have to deal with kid's father. Some guys can't get over the fact that their ex has moved on. Before he was an un-attentive jerk and didn't give a jolly goddamn about her. Now that you've entered into the picture, the dude wants to be the ideal boyfriend and a "father of the year," nominee." The guy stars stalking her and wants to fight you. Even if the woman and guy are on good terms, the guy feels as if he can always smash. He knows her. He knows what she wants to hear and what makes her happy. The next know you your having this conversation- "I've decided to try and make it work with Jimmy's dad". Best way to avoid the situation is to avoid single moms.
5) Rent-A-Daddy - Realizing her mistake, realizing that kids (especially boys need fathers,) The woman gets desperate, any and every guy has the potential to be "daddy." You're out trying to get some, not inheirit a family.
6) The Kids Are Still Up - This is only a problem if your trying to pursue something other than a booty call. Wanting to spend time with you, but not wanting to bring strange men around her kids, you find yourself only seeing this female after 10 or 11PM. You want to move forward, but she has to make sure your the "one." This could take months. I suggest dealing with women that are readily available to hang out.
7) Double Heart Break - You are with the woman, then everything falls apart. You not only do you have to deal with losing the woman, but you've formed a bond with lil' Jimmy. You and Jimmy play HALO together, watch the Wizards' hoop it up, go to the zoo, and things dads do with sons or daughters. On top of maybe missing the woman, you miss the kid.
8) Your Not My Dad. - You hook up with the woman, eventually the issue of discipline is going to come up. Some kids being resentful or just being a bratty %#&@$! is going to eventuallly pull the "YOU CAN'T TELL ME WHAT TO DO!!! YOUR NOT MY DAD!!!" card. Personally if I did date single mothers and some dumba$$ kid pulled that stunt on me, I would say, "Your right. I'm not your father. Since I have no authority over you and you refuse to listen to me, you need to pack your sh*t and go live with your dad." This would be a deal breaker for me. In addition some mothers or the dad would have problem with you disciplining their kid. I'm sorry, if some kid broke my laptop, I'm whooping his a$$.
9) You Know What She Going To Do - She already has one kid, if you knock her up, it's safe to assume she's going to have another one.
10) Bad Judge of Character - This female got knocked up by somebody that she was "supposely in love with." Not only is she a bad judge of character, she's GROSSLY irresponsible. The same guy that's an a$$hole now, is the same guy she thought the world of and had unprotected sex with.
11) Unneccessary Expeditures - Eventually you'll get to meet the kid(s.) Soon those dates turn into family outings. Instead of paying for two people, your paying for three or more. The same goes if you move in with her.
12) You'll Never Be #1 - When your trying to build a relationship with somebody, you should be the focus of the woman's life. It should be about you and her. If she has a kid, you'll NEVER BE #1!!! That's not a bad thing either, but it's something I don't want to deal with. Neither should you.
13) Tag, Your It! - This should be the BIGGEST deterrent to EVER dealing with a single mother. In some jurisdictions, I think California is one of them, if you start dealing with a female with kids, move in with her and things go south. THE FEMALE CAN SUE YOU FOR CHILD SUPPORT!!!! She can claim that the her and child have "become a customed to you supporting the child." YOU COULD END UP POSSIBILY PAYING CHILD SUPPORT FOR A KID THAT ISN'T EVEN YOURS! Imagine being extorted money because you were doing what you thought was the "right thing." The state doesn't give a rat's a$$ about the relationship being over or you being a "good guy." They just don't want the chick on welfare. So as far as your concerned, it's "TAG, YOUR IT!"
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Posted: Monday April 30th, 2007 16:43 |
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Shemsi en Tehuti wrote: First and foremost, do not think that I wrote this. I saw this posted someplace else on the web, and thought it would be interesting what people thought about this...address the message, not the messenger
But by spreading the message you're involved in it's contents. Your disclaimer doesn't remove you from being complicit with what you took upon yourself to post. 
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Posted: Monday April 30th, 2007 16:58 |
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The Watcher wrote: Shemsi en Tehuti wrote: First and foremost, do not think that I wrote this. I saw this posted someplace else on the web, and thought it would be interesting what people thought about this...address the message, not the messenger
But by spreading the message you're involved in it's contents. Your disclaimer doesn't remove you from being complicit with what you took upon yourself to post. 
Perhaps, but I just thought it was rather comical, so I wanted to know what others thought too.
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Posted: Monday April 30th, 2007 17:16 |
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| Would be hilarious if there weren't so many arseholes in the world that preach that list like the bible.
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Posted: Monday April 30th, 2007 17:57 |
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Posted: Monday April 30th, 2007 18:18 |
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Well why don't everybody just stop having kids then, let the whole human race die out. 
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Posted: Monday April 30th, 2007 20:29 |
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| That was funny but true at the same time. All u feminist that don't like it can shove it
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Posted: Monday April 30th, 2007 21:17 |
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Oh boy! this must only apply to BOYS under 20. Is this all the thanks we get for being the mothers of the earth. Anyway, mods will soon lock this sh*t thread off.
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Posted: Tuesday May 1st, 2007 15:20 |
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DSP wrote: Well why don't everybody just stop having kids then, let the whole human race die out. 
Post of the week, nay, decade.
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Posted: Tuesday May 1st, 2007 17:51 |
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HAhah! Man, I have gone through every one of those steps except No. 13
Never again though!
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Posted: Tuesday May 1st, 2007 21:54 |
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shesheshe wrote: Oh boy! this must only apply to BOYS under 20. Is this all the thanks we get for being the mothers of the earth.
    
The amount of sh*tty stigma's that single mothers have to put up with is unbelievable.
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Posted: Wednesday May 2nd, 2007 00:51 |
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Soulstarr wrote: shesheshe wrote: Oh boy! this must only apply to BOYS under 20. Is this all the thanks we get for being the mothers of the earth.
    
The amount of sh*tty stigma's that single mothers have to put up with is unbelievable.
Not sure about that.... while I think single mothers have a harder life, I think single father's have the worst stigmas. No matter what they do they're seen as dead beats.
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Posted: Friday May 4th, 2007 12:22 |
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Single mothers have enough on their plate than to have pathetic lists bounded about slagging them off.
They need support and admiration for what they achieve not slander. After all it takes two to Tango.
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Posted: Friday May 4th, 2007 13:31 |
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13 Reasons to *AVOID* Women with kids - until you find you can't have any yourself
I know there are a lot of loose kids out there but do not take children for granted!
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Posted: Friday May 4th, 2007 13:42 |
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DSP wrote: Soulstarr wrote:
    
The amount of sh*tty stigma's that single mothers have to put up with is unbelievable.
Not sure about that.... while I think single mothers have a harder life, I think single father's have the worst stigmas. No matter what they do they're seen as dead beats.
Single fathers get a lot of praise if they even so much as show interest in their children. Men do not get labelled as deadbeats lightly. For a man to get that name he must really be letting his children down badly.
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Posted: Friday May 4th, 2007 13:47 |
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DSP wrote: Soulstarr wrote: shesheshe wrote: Oh boy! this must only apply to BOYS under 20. Is this all the thanks we get for being the mothers of the earth.
    
The amount of sh*tty stigma's that single mothers have to put up with is unbelievable.
Not sure about that.... while I think single mothers have a harder life, I think single father's have the worst stigmas. No matter what they do they're seen as dead beats.
Well single dads may not be looked upon as heros however it's not tattoed on their fore heads though, so one could end up in a relationship for months with one and you would never know but single mothers have no such bliss...wherever they go the kids have to go to....
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Posted: Friday May 4th, 2007 15:36 |
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Hey - if the kids turn out wotliss the dad is getting the blame period. For women it's all about saving face, whatever they have to say or do to look the innocent party they will.
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Posted: Friday May 4th, 2007 18:55 |
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menzzingos wrote: DSP wrote: Soulstarr wrote: shesheshe wrote: Oh boy! this must only apply to BOYS under 20. Is this all the thanks we get for being the mothers of the earth.
    
The amount of sh*tty stigma's that single mothers have to put up with is unbelievable.
Not sure about that.... while I think single mothers have a harder life, I think single father's have the worst stigmas. No matter what they do they're seen as dead beats.
Well single dads may not be looked upon as heros however it's not tattoed on their fore heads though, so one could end up in a relationship for months with one and you would never know but single mothers have no such bliss...wherever they go the kids have to go to....
This relationship issue has little to do with the stigmas, I think you might be taking it personal. The children are the woman's honor and they make her look responsible, whether she is or not. Anyone who actually thinks that having children still carries the same stigma for a woman is fooling themselves to justify
the victim mentality. As mentioned before plenty of them live fulfilled lives and the stigma doesn't really exist for them anymore....UNLESS she's visibly in the club 3 nights a week.. then you have another story.
btw..I'm strictly speaking on image.
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Posted: Friday May 4th, 2007 20:02 |
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DSP wrote: menzzingos wrote: DSP wrote: Soulstarr wrote: shesheshe wrote: Oh boy! this must only apply to BOYS under 20. Is this all the thanks we get for being the mothers of the earth.
    
The amount of sh*tty stigma's that single mothers have to put up with is unbelievable.
Not sure about that.... while I think single mothers have a harder life, I think single father's have the worst stigmas. No matter what they do they're seen as dead beats.
Well single dads may not be looked upon as heros however it's not tattoed on their fore heads though, so one could end up in a relationship for months with one and you would never know but single mothers have no such bliss...wherever they go the kids have to go to....
This relationship issue has little to do with the stigmas, I think you might be taking it personal. The children are the woman's honor and they make her look responsible, whether she is or not. Anyone who actually thinks that having children still carries the same stigma for a woman is fooling themselves to justify
the victim mentality. As mentioned before plenty of them live fulfilled lives and the stigma doesn't really exist for them anymore....UNLESS she's visibly in the club 3 nights a week.. then you have another story.
btw..I'm strictly speaking on image.
I don't know about there not being stigma for single mothers. Everytime I go out alone with my sister, I get enough attitude from ignorant people who just assume that she's mine.
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Posted: Friday May 4th, 2007 20:23 |
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Its not the sinlge mothers I feels sorry for its the kid.
as for the mother...fukk her she made her choice///let her live with it
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Posted: Friday May 4th, 2007 22:01 |
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DSP wrote: menzzingos wrote: DSP wrote: Soulstarr wrote: shesheshe wrote: Oh boy! this must only apply to BOYS under 20. Is this all the thanks we get for being the mothers of the earth.
    
The amount of sh*tty stigma's that single mothers have to put up with is unbelievable.
Not sure about that.... while I think single mothers have a harder life, I think single father's have the worst stigmas. No matter what they do they're seen as dead beats.
Well single dads may not be looked upon as heros however it's not tattoed on their fore heads though, so one could end up in a relationship for months with one and you would never know but single mothers have no such bliss...wherever they go the kids have to go to....
This relationship issue has little to do with the stigmas, I think you might be taking it personal. The children are the woman's honor and they make her look responsible, whether she is or not. Anyone who actually thinks that having children still carries the same stigma for a woman is fooling themselves to justify
the victim mentality. As mentioned before plenty of them live fulfilled lives and the stigma doesn't really exist for them anymore....UNLESS she's visibly in the club 3 nights a week.. then you have another story.
btw..I'm strictly speaking on image.
Taking it personally ??
I'm not a single mother so thats def no the case, however I have been close enough to some to know that as a single mother you are looked down on even by fellow women talkless of men, it's almost like you are categorised as one who lacks judgement about who she laid down with or was messing with unprotected sex at a very young age...regardless of how it ended up being the situation! children must be joys but thats to a large extent a paternal or maternal thing in the wider western society...
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Posted: Saturday May 5th, 2007 00:10 |
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Black_Power wrote: Its not the sinlge mothers I feels sorry for its the kid.
as for the mother...fukk her she made her choice///let her live with it
thank the lord not all men tink like u...
and i know single fathers too,
its simple really, quite simple... the woman comes with children... how man are you enough to handle it? unfortunatley not all relationships wrk out even when children are involved, Single parents live with it everyday... but they still want to be in a fulfilled relationship... should people avoid them cas of a past accident or them being a victim.. (some are raped and some left with the kids, some are specifically targeted and made mothers/fathers... through holes in the condoms or them 'going missing' after theyve been put on)
@mezzingoes
people look down on young person with children, even if she married.. she should of had a career... people fail to value raising children these days... single mothers get the bulk of it.. single fathers get praised... and the children suffer because one never knows what going to happen when pregnancy comes into the equation. even married ones run away!!
All i have to say is if single mum arent the ones for you then steer clear, im sure no single mum wants a guy who thinks their worthless just because they have a child and they happen to be single.
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Posted: Saturday May 5th, 2007 01:33 |
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Mmmmm
Shesmi..
a bit harsh this thread.. dont you think?
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Posted: Saturday May 5th, 2007 07:55 |
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