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Posted: Saturday March 3rd, 2007 22:57 |
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Quick light hearted bannter
fellas, if you've been with your lady for sometime and you are best friends and happy in the relationship, would you mind if she let herself or her standards of presentation go abit?
not talking major weight gain, just maybe didnt shave her legs as often, stopped wearing makeup, eyebrows weren't plucked as often, toe nails needed addressing, nails weren't manicured, clothes didnt always look fashionable and fabulous etc
would you mind? and what would you do? would it effect your physical attraction towards her?
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Posted: Saturday March 3rd, 2007 23:02 |
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| I am GUILTY of the crimes enlisted above and worse....To be honest I dont know why he sticks around; cause I am the absolute worse case scenario of what I use to look like when we started dating...I couldn't even date myself if I was the last person standing on earth (yep that bad)
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Posted: Saturday March 3rd, 2007 23:11 |
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Posted: Saturday March 3rd, 2007 23:25 |
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very good topic wifeable
my view is that true love is about loving the spirit - good/bad looks give you an unreliable pointer of what the spirit is really like.
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Posted: Sunday March 4th, 2007 01:50 |
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I come from a part of Africa where slim is the only beauty standard. Having said this, a gain in weight slightly will not bother me and I will work with her to help her loose the weight through encouragement and exercise. I undesrtand women gain weight especially after birth or something like that; the weight gain can be lost through exercise, so no biggie there for me.
I will not however accept if she lets her self become sloppy as far as presentation goes. The way my wife looks and presents herself is important to me. There-fore she has to take care of essential things such as hair, nails, the leg shaving thing, and I will not accept mis-matched dressing atire, for instance, Black dress, red shoes, white belt and yellow handbag.
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Posted: Sunday March 4th, 2007 02:11 |
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wifeable wrote: Quick light hearted bannter
fellas, if you've been with your lady for sometime and you are best friends and happy in the relationship, would you mind if she let herself or her standards of presentation go abit? Most definately. Standards of presentation go a long way.
not talking major weight gain, just maybe didnt shave her legs as often,
No personal grooming/ Id think she's getting epressed..shave your damn legs gal.. stopped wearing makeup, No problem/ if she cant hold my interest with no make up then it cant work. After all, you got to wake up with her some time.. a womens true beauty can only be measured without make up../ cant take the jekle and hyde look.. eyebrows weren't plucked as often, toe nails needed addressing, nails weren't manicured, no problem/ clothes didnt always look fashionable and fabulous etc Not watching fashion or name brand on a woman.. thats usually a womens pastime..just look presentable and like you iron your clothes in the morning..if she is attractive in my eyes then she can wear a well pressed and fitted crocus bag for what its worth....but if you start looking shabby then Id have to ask whats up..
would you mind? and what would you do? would it effect your physical attraction towards her?
Nope she has to hold her standards of presentation..might not affect my physical attraction/ but will affect my respect for her. Unless she is suffering from depression of some sort..
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Posted: Sunday March 4th, 2007 06:02 |
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Vubundada_Kandaba wrote: I come from a part of Africa where slim is the only beauty standard. Having said this, a gain in weight slightly will not bother me and I will work with her to help her loose the weight through encouragement and exercise. I undesrtand women gain weight especially after birth or something like that; the weight gain can be lost through exercise, so no biggie there for me.
I will not however accept if she lets her self become sloppy as far as presentation goes. The way my wife looks and presents herself is important to me. There-fore she has to take care of essential things such as hair, nails, the leg shaving thing, and I will not accept mis-matched dressing atire, for instance, Black dress, red shoes, white belt and yellow handbag.
VK shut the f**k up
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Posted: Sunday March 4th, 2007 13:06 |
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@Footprints. You obliviously have a problem with your self esteem. The question was asked to the guys and I replied giving my opinion. But I understand why you are mad because of what you wrote below. To me I believe it is important to keep up how a person looks. Just because two people are married does not mean I should let myself go. I am sure my future wife will not be too happy if I become a coach Potato, I grow a big beer belly, become shabby, don't shave my beard and moustache, my hair is a mess and needs a haircut badly and just don't take care of myself wearing the same pajamas most of the time and grabbing anything I can wear when going out. But hey, I will feel offended too if I were you, particularly the way you describe yourself. I bite back footprints, so be very careful of your stupidity and idiocy or you will get a handful you do not want.
Footprints wrote: I am GUILTY of the crimes enlisted above and worse....To be honest I dont know why he sticks around; cause I am the absolute worse case scenario of what I use to look like when we started dating...I couldn't even date myself if I was the last person standing on earth (yep that bad).
Do I need to say more here. Last edited on Sunday March 4th, 2007 13:40 by Vubundada_Kandaba
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Posted: Sunday March 4th, 2007 13:23 |
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Footprints wrote: Vubundada_Kandaba wrote: I come from a part of Africa where slim is the only beauty standard. Having said this, a gain in weight slightly will not bother me and I will work with her to help her loose the weight through encouragement and exercise. I undesrtand women gain weight especially after birth or something like that; the weight gain can be lost through exercise, so no biggie there for me.
I will not however accept if she lets her self become sloppy as far as presentation goes. The way my wife looks and presents herself is important to me. There-fore she has to take care of essential things such as hair, nails, the leg shaving thing, and I will not accept mis-matched dressing atire, for instance, Black dress, red shoes, white belt and yellow handbag.
VK shut the f**k up
ROFLMAO........ Last edited on Sunday March 4th, 2007 13:30 by Le Moor
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Posted: Sunday March 4th, 2007 13:27 |
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Le Moor wrote:ROFLMAO, well said girl, that cheesy mofo is so cringeworthy.
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Posted: Sunday March 4th, 2007 16:53 |
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wifeable wrote:
not talking major weight gain......[hmm ok, but mine hasn't done this anyway, though after kids and with age, it is perfectly normal to gain some weight].......
just maybe didnt shave her legs as often.....[never been with a woman that does this, so can't say]......
stopped wearing makeup.......[my wife hardly wears it and only sparingly on the rare occassion when she does wear it, so again not an issue for me]........
eyebrows weren't plucked as often...........[never been with a woman that does this, so can't say, except that plucking of eyebrows would probably drive me away if anything]..........
toe nails needed addressing, nails weren't manicured.........[I think my wife would rather die than let her nails go un-manicured for any length of time, so have no idea if it would be an issue for me if she did let them go.......though mind you there has been many an occassion when she has been downstaris manicuring and I have been like "damn it woman, come to bed, I couldn't care if you resembled the Yeti right at this moment"  ]........
clothes didnt always look fashionable and fabulous.......[wife is not really a 'follower of fashion' but is always well kept, so could not imagine her letting this aspect of her character slip].......
would you mind? and what would you do? would it effect your physical attraction towards her? Basically it would be hard to imagine my wife letting things slip to such an extent that it would affect my attraction to her, because she sets for herself certain standards that she doesn't let slip. Besides, I still find her every bit as attractive and desirable (even more so in fact) as I did some 15 years ago when she first came into my life, so 'losing that attraction' is not something I really contemplate. I just take it as read that she will always cause my temperature to rise, one way or another.
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Posted: Monday March 5th, 2007 18:28 |
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Yes, I'm quite vain. I look after myself. I have good genes courtesy of my sweet ma, so why should I settle for less?
Weight gain signifies lack of control over your body & mind... so if you gots no self control what else are you gonna be slack about?
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Posted: Wednesday March 28th, 2007 16:58 |
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Backatya wrote: wifeable wrote:
not talking major weight gain......[hmm ok, but mine hasn't done this anyway, though after kids and with age, it is perfectly normal to gain some weight].......
just maybe didnt shave her legs as often.....[never been with a woman that does this, so can't say]......
stopped wearing makeup.......[my wife hardly wears it and only sparingly on the rare occassion when she does wear it, so again not an issue for me]........
eyebrows weren't plucked as often...........[never been with a woman that does this, so can't say, except that plucking of eyebrows would probably drive me away if anything]..........
toe nails needed addressing, nails weren't manicured.........[I think my wife would rather die than let her nails go un-manicured for any length of time, so have no idea if it would be an issue for me if she did let them go.......though mind you there has been many an occassion when she has been downstaris manicuring and I have been like "damn it woman, come to bed, I couldn't care if you resembled the Yeti right at this moment" ]........
clothes didnt always look fashionable and fabulous.......[wife is not really a 'follower of fashion' but is always well kept, so could not imagine her letting this aspect of her character slip].......
would you mind? and what would you do? would it effect your physical attraction towards her? Basically it would be hard to imagine my wife letting things slip to such an extent that it would affect my attraction to her, because she sets for herself certain standards that she doesn't let slip. Besides, I still find her every bit as attractive and desirable (even more so in fact) as I did some 15 years ago when she first came into my life, so 'losing that attraction' is not something I really contemplate. I just take it as read that she will always cause my temperature to rise, one way or another.
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Posted: Monday April 2nd, 2007 17:43 |
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stick-upKid wrote: Yes, I'm quite vain. I look after myself. I have good genes courtesy of my sweet ma, so why should I settle for less?
Weight gain signifies lack of control over your body & mind... so if you gots no self control what else are you gonna be slack about?
 ...I guess that is a good point.
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Posted: Tuesday April 17th, 2007 22:18 |
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Interesting. When I divorced the wife, the first thing she done was loose the excess she always denied she had. letting yourself go is one thing but denial is a serious thing. Some won't know themself until their back is against the wall.
Laziness is my chief pet peeves and it starts in the mind and manifests itself in many ways, including the body. But as usual I think many of our pet hates are only hates when seen in other people
Looks aren't the be all and end all for many couples, I for one aint into the trophy wife business but if you are out of shape or more to the point wear ill fitting clothes that do not suit your shape................................we aint goin nowhere!.....don't worry about how I look
Black skin and a brain then I can more turn a blind eye to other things than the other way round. Priceless is also a good sense of humour. A woman who can joke about herself with her man is a good thing. Them ones who always think they're on camera are the worse.
A definite no no is I work all day with greys, I don't want to come home to one!
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