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Posted: Wednesday January 5th, 2005 20:20 |
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| Basically I need help concerning the relationship with me and my girl. We have been friends for about a year and became very close about 7 months ago. Anyways we decided to be committed about 2 weeks ago before she went on vacation. I didn't bring it up, it was all her idea and I didn't have any problems with it, but I could have gone without being in a relationship with her and been just as happy. After she came back things have just been different I mean our conversation is almost forced, she has almost distanced herself from me, we don't do things as often as we used to and it feels like I have been placed on the back burner. It's like she just wanted to lock me down and now that she has me it's like she don't care. Before she left for vacation she said she didn't want me to be with anyone else and she knows what my past has been like with females, I don't cheat but if I'm not in a relationship I'm not saving myself for anything. I really want to be a good man and all her friends and family say I am, so that is why it's so perplexing to me why she has changed so much. I'm trying to be open minded and I know all of her friends are kinda upset she has not seen them in like 8 months and so I'm just dealin' with it now without bothering her too much about it. I really don't know what to do right now I mean our relationship is still very young, obviously, but I don't want it to be like this forever but I can deal with her doing her own thing every once in a while and she does take care of me sexually but, it's like if she isn't willing to put in time with me how does she expect me to just wait around for her. I'm hoping this is just a phase so I don't want to make any rash decisions that will damage our friendship.
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Posted: Wednesday January 5th, 2005 23:22 |
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| She made u commit to her, but she has no intentions of committing to u. She probably went on holiday and got herself some cocky. Long for the moping about wondering why she has changed, ask her outright what kinda relationship she thinks ur having. If she don't give u a straight answer knock it on the head.
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Posted: Thursday January 6th, 2005 00:35 |
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J-DuBB210 wrote: Basically I need help concerning the relationship with me and my girl. We have been friends for about a year and became very close about 7 months ago. Anyways we decided to be committed about 2 weeks ago before she went on vacation. I didn't bring it up, it was all her idea and I didn't have any problems with it, but I could have gone without being in a relationship with her and been just as happy. After she came back things have just been different I mean our conversation is almost forced, she has almost distanced herself from me, we don't do things as often as we used to and it feels like I have been placed on the back burner. It's like she just wanted to lock me down and now that she has me it's like she don't care. Before she left for vacation she said she didn't want me to be with anyone else and she knows what my past has been like with females, I don't cheat but if I'm not in a relationship I'm not saving myself for anything. I really want to be a good man and all her friends and family say I am, so that is why it's so perplexing to me why she has changed so much. I'm trying to be open minded and I know all of her friends are kinda upset she has not seen them in like 8 months and so I'm just dealin' with it now without bothering her too much about it. I really don't know what to do right now I mean our relationship is still very young, obviously, but I don't want it to be like this forever but I can deal with her doing her own thing every once in a while and she does take care of me sexually but, it's like if she isn't willing to put in time with me how does she expect me to just wait around for her. I'm hoping this is just a phase so I don't want to make any rash decisions that will damage our friendship.
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Tell this to her, not us....if you notice a change.......leave.
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