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Posted: Sunday November 28th, 2004 17:53 |
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Hey,
I have a friend who I've been close to for just over a year. Lately, she's been doing things that bug me and show me up in public... not cool. I've let it slide a few times but it's getting to the point where I know that one day I'll just lose it and both of us will get hurt. She makes me feel stupid by saying that she is right and using 'factual' knowledge, she goes for the guys that I want to go out with and then hates on the ones that actually like me and she has to be the centre of attention. So do I get her back and see her suffer as much as me?  Or do I tell her off and settle it in a few sentences? Or do I just let it go and work on ME instead of her?
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Posted: Sunday November 28th, 2004 18:00 |
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Posted: Sunday November 28th, 2004 19:51 |
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I agree with facetygal... you need to ask her straight why she does what she does, be honest and straight forward tell her it hurts you when she does it...
She might not even be aware that she is doing it... and if she is a true friend she will stop once you tell her how you feel.
However, if she continues afterwards you need to stop... no friendship is worth feeling stupid and getting worked out over.
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Posted: Sunday November 28th, 2004 21:37 |
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Posted: Sunday January 16th, 2005 16:23 |
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@ Tee Jay-c
I agree that should tell your 'friend' how you feel about her behaviour towards you. More than likely you have some qualities within you that she would like to posess herself. How long have you known her?
Just remember to keep your head up and do not let her get you down as that seems to be her main goal at the moment.
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Posted: Friday January 21st, 2005 12:18 |
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Tee Jay-C wrote: Hey,
I have a friend who I've been close to for just over a year. Lately, she's been doing things that bug me and show me up in public... not cool. I've let it slide a few times but it's getting to the point where I know that one day I'll just lose it and both of us will get hurt. She makes me feel stupid by saying that she is right and using 'factual' knowledge, she goes for the guys that I want to go out with and then hates on the ones that actually like me and she has to be the centre of attention. So do I get her back and see her suffer as much as me? Or do I tell her off and settle it in a few sentences? Or do I just let it go and work on ME instead of her?
If you are child I'd sure get her back, because that is what children do. In that they lack the maturity to handle situations that adults my find themselves in.
If you are an adulte I'd do three things.
1. I would confront this *cough* friend and let her know how you feel. What it sounds like to me (From this one sided tale) is that she is jealous of you, and wants to prove hersefl around you.
2. If you have already spoken to her, or if after speaking with her things do not change I would sever the friendship. And tell her why you are breaking it off.
3. I would re-evaluate what what you think a 'FRIEND' is.
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