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Posted: Tuesday November 23rd, 2004 14:06 |
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@lady96
i feel you did the right thing. female friends are had to come by as it is without men getting involved. you told the truth and that is all that matters. if i was in the same situation as the other girl i would like to know. pregnancy is hard to deal with as it is and if you told her after she had the baby she could get into a downward spiral of depression.
you did the right thing, so hold your head up high. deep down you know your a true friend and your consciounce is clean.
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Posted: Thursday November 25th, 2004 15:43 |
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u most diff did the rite thing.... as a friend u have the duty to say wot others wouldn't... ur friend just burnt at the moment, and her pride is makin her dragg her ass and common sense. she'll come round, and if she doesn't, do u really want someone that small minded around u. as women we need to stick together, wouldnt u want her to tell u if the situation was reversed (point this out to her). then again u may need to learn and re-evaluate ur friendship barriers wit certain friends.
i'm goin thro friend dynamics at the moment (and re-evaluating wot i and cant say to a female i've called my best friend since leaving school) and its hard but honestly if u both work at rebuilding ur friendship it'll come rite....but only if it's meant 2. just remember that not every1 is in ur life for a life time... some people r meant to exit and re-enter... others just 2 exit
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Posted: Tuesday December 28th, 2004 17:11 |
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Merry christmas and happy new year to everyone on BNV!!!!
Havent been on this site for a while been busy at university but i thought i'd just update people.
she did stop speaking to me for a while so i just left her to come back to me in her own time. eventually shes did and she told me that he said that im lying and trying split them. to cut a long story short they are still together and she gave birth to a healthy baby boy Although i know he is bad for her iam not judging anymore when she realises what a prick he is i will be there for her.
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Posted: Tuesday December 28th, 2004 17:50 |
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No don't tell her. She will eventually get upset with you for exposing him. Keep secrets and expose lies. I know it's too late. They probably already broke up by now.
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Posted: Monday January 3rd, 2005 14:22 |
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Lady96 wrote: i just told him dont eva talk like that again me and you could neva be. he then brought up the past, as we were involed but it was a long time ago and i have no feelings for him.
I swear that says u and him were involved.....
U then said this:
He foned me twice to be precise. i have his number as we USED 2 b friends first before he and my friend got together. I called him time ago as i was wondering where my friend was as i havent heard from her in ages. So he must have saved my number. There has been NOTHING going on between me and him. If i had been doing something what would be the point of this thread.
Which is it? I personally think friends going out wit each thers ex's is NONSENSE. and even if u were innocent this time round you should not have called him full stop, as it leaves u open to suspcision.... As it gives him a good arguement to tel his baby mums-ur friend, ie,
pregant, confused, hurting friend  id u try it on wit Lady96?
cheating boyfriend:No baby u done kno im not on her, she wants me!! calling me, pretending to b lookng for, you, she has ur number!!! shes trying to split us up cos we are happy, having a baby etc...... by da way didnt she just split up wit her man......
pregant, confused, hurting friend: for real!
u see? everyting switch up on u!!! not to mention her pregnant hormones going mad!!!
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Posted: Monday February 14th, 2005 22:49 |
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Although i understand the reasoning behind those of you who say she should have stayed quiet i put this to you.
Lets reverse the senario and your partner tries to seduce your best friend. Would you want to know about it as soon as possible? Well i know i damm well would, and i think if your honest with yourself you would too.
Lady96 there was never going to be an easy solution but in the long run you made the right decision. Your allligance is to your friend. By keeping it a secret it becomes to her boyfriend. If your friend takes your honesty the wrong way then you have to live with that and walk away with the knowledge you were only doing the right thing. Look at it this way, shes going to have a life of grief and disappointment anyway with her sex addict man, so you may as well be the one to try save her from that and open her eyes to the truth. Even if he convinces her it was your fault it is still worth the risk if you have her best interests at heart. The seed would have been sown and eventually she will remember and respect your honesty wether your around or not.
The fact she is having a baby does i admit even further complicates matters. However the way he tried it on with you was so slack that i reckon hes serial, so baby or no baby at some point her whole world is gonna get shattered anyway. She will feel better hearing it from you knowing that you said no to his advances rather than finding her man in bed with her friend, sister, mum, auntie, in the future.
Yes there may not be no easy way out for you but there is definately no easy soultion for your friend either. That unfortuanetly is life and we all are faced with tough decesions which we will have to choose from.
Last edited on Monday February 14th, 2005 23:02 by Le Moor
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