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liberiangirl
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Posted: Friday September 29th, 2006 15:25 |
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Just the other day I was heading towards the trains station on my way to work. I walked down the stairs and sat down on the platform. When I looked up the stairs i noticed there was this Indian man staring at me. I didnt pay much attention because people stare all the time, so I just looked away and minded my own business. As he came down the stairs and was heading my direction, I moved my stuff so he could sit down, still didnt pay him any mind. He turned towards me and started talking about how pretty I was. I politely mumbled "thank you", but didnt entertain a conversation with him in hope that he would leave me alone. I guess he took my thank you as a sign to keep going, so he kept on talking and out of NOWHERE, this man whom I have never known previously, never seen in my life grabbed my hand and began kissing it.  He stated, "you're so beautiful I cant take my eyes off of you". I took politely took my hand away quitely said thank you and began looking in my purse for something to pretend I was busy. He was going on and on about me being pretty and nice looking and my skin was so soft etc. etc., all the while I tried to look occupied so he would leave me alone, but it didnt work. His compliments became more intense and he began talking about about how when he first saw me he fell in love with me and commented that we should go to a church and get married today. He started tellking me his whole life story, of how he grew up in Tanzinia and came here to the US to study PHD astrophysics engineering . He said that lately he has been very lonely since his grandmother died and that when he saw my face his heart lept and everything felt alright again. He went on a little about how he feels lonely in the world and how he never gets any girls and he started asking me if I found him good looking, to which i shrugged dismissively cus I didnt want to hurt his feelings, but at the same time I didnt want him to think I was interested(BTW i didnt find him good looking) He started touching my leg and repeatedly grabbing my hand so I he could kiss it and I kept pulling away and trying to tell him to stop. At this point I was really nervous. So i moved to a different area but he got up and sat next to me again. It was around this time the train came and I was relieved because i thought I could finally get away, but he followed me onto the train and sat next to me again. The thing that creeped me out the most is when he said something like " I will never wash my shirt again because I want to keep your wonderful smell on me." At that point I was really nervous/scared because everything he was saying didnt sound like it was coming from a guy who was showering compliments on me in an attempt to be smooth and charming, it sounded like it was coming from a man who was truly and sincerely in love/infatuated with me, someone who was really desparate and lonely, someone who was severely off balance. He started to ask me my name, number, where I lived, what school I went to, and when he could take me out. And no matter how much i tried to use the old "I have a boyfriend" line he wouldnt stop. When the train stop at my station I got up and he proceeded to follow off of the train as well. While I was on the escalator he bent down and kissed my feet and kept asking me if he could please take me out sometime. Now I have had guys who i gave a fake number call the number right in front of me just to make sure it was the real, and then flip out on me once they realized it was fake. So in this instance I was afraid to give him a fake number, since there was no telling what this he might do. So I took his number and lied and said I would call him which at this point he finally left me alone and I proceeded to go to work.
The reason why I didnt try to contact authorities, police and things like that is because at Atlanta train stations, oftens times are no security guards. Only certain train stations have security, and the paticular train station I was at doesnt have security on a day to day basis and that paticular day it has none. After I left work I politely asked an employee at the train station to escort me to the train just in case dude was waiting for me when I got off of work.
Thankfully I havent ran into him again, and for right now I am just avoiding going to that paticular station to catch the train.
But one thing that has bothered me about this incident is if there was a better way I could have handled the situation. Right now thinking back on it, I think possibly I could have been a bit too soft and not firm enough in telling him to stop, which is why he was persistant. The reason why I was not firm or didnt rudely tell him to f**k off, was because this guy was clearly inbalanced and I had no idea how he would react if I got nasty with him. Not only that but I was scared as hell. I have read books and articles on stalkers/obssessive people and experts will tell you that no matter how much you tell stalkers "no", they will take any sign of rejection to mean "yes" and still be persue you. So I am thinking that even if I had been firmer, that it wouldnt have made any difference at all.
But right now I just need some advice as to how to handle future situations like this so any suggestions would be most welcome.
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Posted: Friday September 29th, 2006 17:20 |
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A swift headbutt normally does the trick.
I'm being serious as well. Violence should be used when the other person can't listen to reason.
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