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Posted: Saturday September 23rd, 2006 21:57 |
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To refrain from too many specifics, the circumstance is your heart tells you that you should be with someone, and all of your times with them are the most enjoyable. However, your mind tells you to avoid the relationship because of whatever particular ideologies you may have (religious, ethnic, political, economic, etc.). You two are very happy together only until you start to think about (or express) your ideological convictions.
Do you follow your heart to embrace the relationship, or do you avoid the relationship because both your mind and heart are not in unison?
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Posted: Saturday September 23rd, 2006 22:35 |
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Thats interesting... if your heart and mind are in conflict will you ever really be satisfied. relationships that are successful usually are relations ships where the mind and heart are intact. where there share main ideas and beliefs...
Certain ideologies such as ethnic etc can be by passsed but certain faiths cannot.
A born again christian dating a "Sinner" the christian will always be trying to convert the "sinner" because they believe they are going to hell. If the sinner does not covert how will the christian be happy in a relationship where the lover is potientially going to go to hell.
If one person adores another but one wants a few children and the other believs you should have a career first and have just one just to continue the line. The family person will always feel unhappy because they want a family.
To name a few examples
If the mind conflicts the heart then, at first it will be good but as time passes the unhappiness will kick in, where one wants one thing and the other another doesnt which can consist of many different factors. It just doesnt work. otherwize your just meant to be friends.
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Posted: Saturday September 23rd, 2006 22:50 |
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| My mind rules my heart. If I followed my heart my mind would never forgive me!
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Posted: Saturday September 23rd, 2006 22:53 |
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Always go with the mind. Too many people don't and some actually believe following the heart is a virtue!
That's how you end up with a so called broken heart. From listening to it.
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Posted: Sunday September 24th, 2006 10:57 |
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Shemsi en Tehuti wrote: To refrain from too many specifics, the circumstance is your heart tells you that you should be with someone, and all of your times with them are the most enjoyable. However, your mind tells you to avoid the relationship because of whatever particular ideologies you may have (religious, ethnic, political, economic, etc.). You two are very happy together only until you start to think about (or express) your ideological convictions.
Do you follow your heart to embrace the relationship, or do you avoid the relationship because both your mind and heart are not in unison?
I'm not sure it's that complicated. People fall in love wtih others who have completely different ideolgies/status/heritage etc., all the time. Unless they want to break up what they learn to do is compromise or if it's a particularly sensitive to a person - don't talk about it with their partners.
If a conviction is too strong for them to compromise with anyone they may decide not to be with a person who has such different views.
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Posted: Sunday September 24th, 2006 17:37 |
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Listening to your heart is so great, you just basically go with the flow, you do what you feel like right at that time, damn tomorrow and the day after that. You can compare your heart to a child, it doesn’t know or care about consequences, just wants what it wants, when it wants it. Feelings change, what your heart presumes to be so important today may not be tomorrow and then you are left with mess to clean up.
Personally, all the mistakes I have ever made in my life have been made in split second decisions based on my feeling at that moment. Can’t say the same with decisions I have ever made using my mind.
My advice is to listen to your mind; it will rarely let you down. Your mind should always be in control of your heart (especially if it’s very wise), even better if you could find a compromise between your mind and your heart.
Don’t be fooled that your feelings will go away with time, they will not. All you’ll be doing is making it harder for the both of you when the inevitable happens and you have to part ways and you will part ways.
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Posted: Monday September 25th, 2006 11:58 |
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I always listen to my mind because I know that in most cases what the heart tells you to do is based on some societal construct that has been placed in your head and controls your feelings.
In one situation I had a choice, to leave a relationship because of the actions of the other person or to stay because of everyone's best friend, the biological reaction, love. I immediately left because what I believed was love couldn't have been when I looked at it logically. If a person would do what she did to me she couldn't love me. Then i realised I can't be in love on my own. So I left.
Logic and sound mind make the world go round a lot easier. And the above poster is right; the only mistakes I have ever made have been when I was overly emotional about things, thinking about the wants of my heart instead of the needs of my mind.
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Posted: Monday September 25th, 2006 14:12 |
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| I think there has been some great advice given so far, I would agree withe the consensus and that is to let your mind rule your decision... Whilst going with your heart might appear attractive, the problem is that once the shine wears off, you're left with how to reconcile the idealogical difference that then quickly appear in the relationship...
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Posted: Monday September 25th, 2006 14:53 |
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Ras Rueben - and there's the irony...whatever it is she done it was probably the love in her heart that told her to do it.....though her mind (especillay one of those eediat girl power minds) will be telling her she's not aloud to say sorry.....bet you she'll be listenening to it then LOL
That's the beauty of romance when your hearts and minds are mostly in sync...even to the degree you can both call it a day amicably.
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Posted: Monday October 2nd, 2006 02:02 |
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I like the way people say always listen to your mind,
Listening to your mind is good, but never forget your mind plays tricks on you. Sometimes you can through away a good thing because your mind may never be able to agree with the concept that someone will love you, other times you mind may totally be captivated by a person but your heart is not truelly in it.
A person who always chooses mind over heart, doesnt take chances on true love(if one belives in such notions), sometimes your mind will stray you away due to fear.
you should equaly listen to your heart, it is the one that has the feelings, the mind just merely protects it. and where they dont agree you should ask 2 questions
why am i thinking like this?
why am i feeling like this?
once you know the answers to them questions, you will be better at judging who to listen to... the heart or mind... or hopefully they will then be in unison!
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