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Posted: Monday April 17th, 2006 21:59 |
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| Ok, well basically, my boyfriend was in a car accident an right now he's in hospital with a fractured arm, deep chest wound, his liver is bleeding and he's in an out of consciousness. However, he's been in a car crash before and had problems with his liver bleeding previously. He pulled through that, but I'm scared he won't pull through this time because his condition has worsened as he's stayin unconcious for longer periods of time, I can't stop cryin an I don't wanna do anything, I have never felt so low an sad in my life. I know he wouldn't want me to be like this but I really can't help it cause I love him so much an can't help but worry that the worse will happen, and if it does I dont know wat I would do. I feel so low, I got college this thursday an I know I gotta keep my head up and get on with the work, I know he would want that, but it's so hard an I'm scared. Has anyone ever been in a similar situation? It's so hard and the worse thing is that I can't go and see him up in Birmingham because my mum isn't allowing me 2 go because she said the distance is too far?! He went to stay up there temporarily during the holidays, his best friend is with him an she's been a big help to me, she lets me know everythin that's going on, and every movement he makes or words he tries to say, the doctors were meant to operate on his liver to stop the bleeding but they said his condition is too bad for them to operate yet, after hearin that...I just felt like everythins goin wrong. Everythin is so messed up Last edited on Monday April 17th, 2006 22:04 by Ladi_Swifty
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Posted: Monday April 17th, 2006 22:13 |
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man im sorry to hear that doggie...
the liver is one thing that if that goes....im afraid to say hes a gonner fo sho...
but keep your head up...
cant you mum take you up there? if she worries bout the distance and you going alone?
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Posted: Monday April 17th, 2006 22:33 |
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I can't pretend to know what you're going through, but I know I would probably be the same if I was in your situation. I think being near him might be helpful, I would try to get to Birmingham somehow to see him and be with him, even if you have to ask your mum to go with you like BP said.
In the mean time, just try to keep positive, doctors are quite advanced these days, they might just be able to get your bf past the worst.... just keep positive.
@ BP..................."he's a gonner for sho?????????" really BP!!!! 
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Posted: Monday April 17th, 2006 22:34 |
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Sorry to hear about your situation Lady Swifty it sounds terrible,all I can do is send out a prayer for him and hope that the universe will be merciful to you and his family.
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Posted: Tuesday April 18th, 2006 00:03 |
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man im a realist...
the liver a big thing to go....for those who didnt know its actually the LARGEST organ in the body...
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Posted: Tuesday April 18th, 2006 00:16 |
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sorry to hear about the accident....
havent been in the exact same situation, but similar, not as serious...it must be hard for you not being able to go and see him...keep ur head up! wish i could offer more advice...but there's nothing else to say really..
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Posted: Tuesday April 18th, 2006 00:17 |
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Black_power wrote: man im sorry to hear that doggie...
the liver is one thing that if that goes....im afraid to say hes a gonner fo sho...
Yes, what an encouraging and lovely thing to say to someone who's in sorrow and despair! How consoling.
man im a realist...
the liver a big thing to go....for those who didnt know its actually the LARGEST organ in the body...
And yes, this woman is most certainly in need of hearing your vast knowledge on the human anatomy at this moment.
Insensitive pig.
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Posted: Tuesday April 18th, 2006 01:25 |
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I know your mum says its too far etc but if you can find someone to go with you, I relly think you should try and get up ther at least if its for one day. I suspect that this is part of the reson you are feeling as bad as you do becuase its so so hard to be away from someone you love when you know they need you the most and you can't be close to them when you need to. Being away from him maybe magnifying how bad you already feel at the situation.
I'm so sorry hun. I wouldn't wish this on anyone and I've been in a similar position before but my loved one came thrugh the worst even though no-one thought they would cos they were a fighter and I'm sure your boyfriend is too. Keep putting your positive thoughts into action as hard as it is and he could be back in your arms quicker than you think.
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Posted: Tuesday April 18th, 2006 17:38 |
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Brother BP that was out of line. Sometimes you gotta hold your tongue man...
Lady_Swifty, I'm sorry to hear this and I'm hoping that he is on the improve right now. Maybe your mum could take you down there. Focusing on your work for some of the time may reduce some of the worry although it naturally is hard even trying to imagine what that must be like is hard. Positive thoughts and prayers going out to you and your boyfriend right now sister
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Posted: Tuesday April 18th, 2006 19:00 |
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Posted: Tuesday April 18th, 2006 20:34 |
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apparently ive dont something wrong here... so imma keeps this one short n sweet (as always)
hope your fella gets well soon and everything works out for yall... keeps us posted on whats gwarnin..
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Posted: Tuesday April 18th, 2006 20:38 |
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My heart goes and to you and you boyfriend. Have you got any siblings or friends that would be willing to travel with you?
@Everyone, I think BP was trying to explain what may happen to prepare her, although not done in the best way, thats what I believe he may have been trying to do
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Posted: Tuesday April 18th, 2006 21:42 |
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@Incongito: That was so sweet.
@BP: It wasn't about wrong it was more about timing. Sister said she was feeling low and sometimes it doesn't help to think lower. I'm glad you came back and said what you did.
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Posted: Tuesday April 18th, 2006 21:58 |
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| The power of prayer is truly an amazing thing. If you don't believe in god or don't know how to pray, send me a pm and I will do a prayer on ur behalf. Be strong and preserve ur energy for when ur b/f pulls through and will need u the most. Bless
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Posted: Tuesday April 18th, 2006 22:17 |
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Ladi_Swifty - Life is one long road with lots of signs - I've always questioned why the lessons in life have to be so harsh but believe they are as harsh as they need to be to learn the lesson.
What many will see as hard times see it as a test. I was in a car crash a few months before my first son was born - if it wasn't for the high kerb I would have mounted the pavement and probably killed people and even myself. A few months from that my first son was born and on my birthday - believe Jah is great - he never gives you more than you can bear and rewards you greatly for passing the test of your faith!! - and I still haven't lost the boy-racer in me.
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Posted: Tuesday April 18th, 2006 22:35 |
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I truly feel for you sis, what a terrible situation to be in. Please speak to your mother again and explain the need to see him, i am sure she'll find a way for you to get to Birmingham if she understands how much you are hurting.
When ever you feel like talking, please remember the BN family is here to help you through this terrible time.
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Posted: Wednesday April 19th, 2006 08:18 |
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@ Ladi, does your mother appreciate how not seeing your boyfrined is making you feel worse?
Maybe its the fact you can't see him that is causing your imagination to run riot.
Birmingham is only a 2 hour train ride away. If your mum took you to the station and your boyfrineds friend met you at the other end and took you to the hospital, i'm sure it would be fine. If you are in college, then you must be at least 16. That is not too young to go on a train ride alone, if need be.
And if you are having troube concentrating in college it is probably best that you see him.
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Posted: Wednesday April 19th, 2006 09:45 |
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| well she aint replied in a lil bit... maybe shes gone to brum
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Posted: Wednesday April 19th, 2006 14:51 |
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| Hey every1 an thanks sooo much 4 all tha support, he's in tha operating theatre as I write this, he's been in there for 2 hours 45 mins, an the doctors said its likely to be completely successful. I spoke to my mum again, but she still said no, even when her boyfriend offered to drive me up, I know she's got her reasons, I just don't understand them, and I know for a fact she doesn't want me to have a boyfriend so she definetely wasn't willing to come down there with me, I'm 17 an I told her she has to let me grow up sometime yano? But I can understand if she's worried bout lettin me out in2 tha big wide world an doesn't wanna let go..but damn she's gunna have 2 do it soon lol. However, his best friend has kept me updated on everythin goin on, and despite everythin that's goin on inside him he's gettin much much better. He opened his eyes yesterday an was talkin, an he hasn't done that in a while lol, apparently the only person he's been talkin about is me an all the nurses think he's married cause he keeps talkin bout "his wife back in London" lol, that made me feel so so so much happier, an all tha support that people on this forum have been givin me, so thanks to everyone agen. I think he's gonna pull through from everythin I been hearin, but I'm still prayin cause sometimes things aren't what they seem. But I'm still keepin as optimistic as possible. Not long after I started this topic, I got a text from his friend tellin me he's a million times better, relieved wasn't even the WORD trust me! That made me feel so so much better, an things are improvin by the day, but I still gotta prepare maself in case anything goes wrong Last edited on Wednesday April 19th, 2006 14:53 by Ladi_Swifty
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Posted: Wednesday April 19th, 2006 15:00 |
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@Lady_ Swifty: That's great to hear and I'm glad he's progressing like that. Keep your head up sis sounds like you guys have something good and that's definitely keeping him going....and at 17  aaahhh. I'm glad you can see your mums point of view too as hard as it may seem.
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Posted: Wednesday April 19th, 2006 15:00 |
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I'm so pleased for the both of you! And he's so lucky to have a devoted young lady like you by his side.
I hope his condition continues to improve and i'm sure you two love birds will be back in each others arms again soon
keep praying and everything will be just fine xx
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Posted: Wednesday April 19th, 2006 15:01 |
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| So happy to hear that Ladi!! the power of prayer and positive thinking!!! I still think, given the circumstances, that your mother is being kind of unreasonable, whatever her reasons. But all the best
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Posted: Wednesday April 19th, 2006 15:11 |
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Lady_Swifty - a friend of mine was in a serious car crash and was unconcious for quite a while. Went to see him in the hospital and he just looked like he'd already passed. A few months before, I was in Jamaica at my grans funeral and went to see her body in the mortuary - my friend looked just like her.
as it is my friend pulled through and during his recovery I saw his eldest brother who used to be one of my youth leaders in youth club. Told him how I prayed and it nearly brought tears to his eyes...he was killing me with thanks.
After coming out of hospital I heard my friend still needed some major operations before he could fully recover and walk unaided again. Heard he was feeling quite depressed and dejected - this was the last impression I had of him, a total contrast to the person i knew before the crash.
Anyway three months ago I saw my friend himself for the first time at an SW11 reunion. this was the first time I'd seen him since last seeing him in hospital - still on crutches but the happiest person you could ever meet. Told him how I prayed saying his work here wass not yet finished. Would he have pulled through if people were not praying for him, have others not made it even when people have prayed for them?
After the hospital visit you just feel helpless, the only thing left is prayer - and the power of prayer means you accept the outcome whatever it is in faith that your prayer has been answered. Ironically I was recently at another SW11 reunion, sadly this time it was DJ Swings funeral.
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Posted: Wednesday April 19th, 2006 15:15 |
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An thanks to everyone, yea 2 Madame Butterfly I feel the same way, I understand where she's comin from but I still think it's unfair, but when he's better lol, we can see each other again. I don't want him drivin anymore though! He's American (but livin over here) so..I don't know if it's because we drive on a different side or somethin...or the steerin wheels on the other side of the car, or maybe he just couldn't see properly (both of the car crashes happened at night) so... I have no idea wat happened, cause a lorry hit the car, in both accidents. I really don't want him drivin though. Not just yet, he can drive in America but he can't drive over here! lol, an I just got another text sayin that before he went into the operatin theatre he said "he feels lovesick an that he's only fightin for me an that I'm tha one he wants 2 spend the rest of his life with" damn that made me wanna cry a whole heap a happy tears lol. I'm feelin a lot better about the whole situation, an just in time to get on with my college work 2moro!
2 Incognito, plz believe I prayed an prayed for that soldierrr I really did lol, I ain't never prayed so hard in my life, an his best friend was prayin for him too. Only three people know about what happened to him, me , his best friend an his cousin an we've all been prayin for him an keepin in contact with him as much as possible, an I think the love he's been feelin from us made him stronger and made him wanna fight even harder
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Posted: Wednesday April 19th, 2006 16:48 |
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| see....I told you to keep your head up.
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Posted: Wednesday April 19th, 2006 21:46 |
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Black_power wrote: man im a realist...
the liver a big thing to go....for those who didnt know its actually the LARGEST organ in the body...
Sorry but that where your wrong, the SKIN is actually the largest organ....
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