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Posted: Tuesday January 17th, 2006 20:59 |
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hey everyone
this is for strictly over 21's...
I met a guy last year which i can not get out of my head, no guy has had this lasting effect on me. Sometimes I feel like it is simply a school girl crush, but i know it is much deeper then that, you know that feeling when you first meet someone and something feels different but you don't what it is...
you ask yrself loads of questions, is it love? Is it a crush? or is it a complete misunderstanding? But when you anlysise it further somewhere along the line that person has given you something back to make you think otherwise, that there is something there, you know the feeling when u feel like yr making a fool of urself but you just can't stop it, what do you? do you just leave it alone? But then something deep insdide of you is telling you that you are meant to be together with this person, what do you do?
should you chase it or leave it?
totally confused
Miss Price.
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Posted: Tuesday January 17th, 2006 22:30 |
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I am so the wrong person to reply… oh so wrong but can’t help it.
Let me give you a little thing that happen to me a little while ago oh shsh here it goes… I met one of the loveliest guy (we talking the whole package, educated, intelligent, kind, cultured, good looking etc) so we become friends and I am thinking woo hoo me like him and if you know me that’s a big deal cause I don’t easily have crushes on people, but anyway so this guy and I started spending a lot of time together, now that’s when it all went wrong… lol his intelligent was all from books, his kindness was well actually fake… cause he never actually does anything that classifies as kind, he just makes you think he’s kind with words… thank you so much, thank you, thank you… oh f**k your thank you  .
I think it took me about two weeks of thank you, thank you before i figured out how totally wrong he was for me…
Now it’s been a while and everytime we get together I think about what I could have gotten my self into had I not decided to really get to know him first.
Sometimes you imagine people the way you want them to be and the little things you see can easily be turned into what you wish them to be so you can confuse say sarcasm for sense of humour, words for action etc.
My advise I hope is clear lol just in case it isn’t I am saying stop fantasising, clear your head and get to know him like you’d get to know a stranger you don’t fantasies about their bulging muscles and manly shoulders… don’t just think about his good qualities also think about his not so good qualities and see if you can live with them and if after all of that you still think he is quality then go for it but since you didn’t say anything about his feeling you may not have much of a choice in the matter anyway… lol I mean has he even shown any interest in you? Sorry but if he doesn’t show at least just as much interest then personally I’ll just walk away…. But then again I have a lot of unwarranted pride **shakes head**.
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Posted: Tuesday January 17th, 2006 23:32 |
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Abissinia wrote: I am so the wrong person to reply… oh so wrong but can’t help it.
Let me give you a little thing that happen to me a little while ago oh shsh here it goes… I met one of the loveliest guy (we talking the whole package, educated, intelligent, kind, cultured, good looking etc) so we become friends and I am thinking woo hoo me like him and if you know me that’s a big deal cause I don’t easily have crushes on people, but anyway so this guy and I started spending a lot of time together, now that’s when it all went wrong… lol his intelligent was all from books, his kindness was well actually fake… cause he never actually does anything that classifies as kind, he just makes you think he’s kind with words… thank you so much, thank you, thank you… oh f**k your thank you .
I think it took me about two weeks of thank you, thank you before i figured out how totally wrong he was for me…
Now it’s been a while and everytime we get together I think about what I could have gotten my self into had I not decided to really get to know him first.
Sometimes you imagine people the way you want them to be and the little things you see can easily be turned into what you wish them to be so you can confuse say sarcasm for sense of humour, words for action etc.
My advise I hope is clear lol just in case it isn’t I am saying stop fantasising, clear your head and get to know him like you’d get to know a stranger you don’t fantasies about their bulging muscles and manly shoulders… don’t just think about his good qualities also think about his not so good qualities and see if you can live with them and if after all of that you still think he is quality then go for it but since you didn’t say anything about his feeling you may not have much of a choice in the matter anyway… lol I mean has he even shown any interest in you? Sorry but if he doesn’t show at least just as much interest then personally I’ll just walk away…. But then again I have a lot of unwarranted pride **shakes head**.
 Oh my Chest hurts....this is too funny. And to make it worse, you can't even remember his name!
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Posted: Thursday January 19th, 2006 17:20 |
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Abissinia wrote: I am so the wrong person to reply… oh so wrong but can’t help it.
Let me give you a little thing that happen to me a little while ago oh shsh here it goes… I met one of the loveliest guy (we talking the whole package, educated, intelligent, kind, cultured, good looking etc) so we become friends and I am thinking woo hoo me like him and if you know me that’s a big deal cause I don’t easily have crushes on people, but anyway so this guy and I started spending a lot of time together, now that’s when it all went wrong… lol his intelligent was all from books, his kindness was well actually fake… cause he never actually does anything that classifies as kind, he just makes you think he’s kind with words… thank you so much, thank you, thank you… oh f**k your thank you .
I think it took me about two weeks of thank you, thank you before i figured out how totally wrong he was for me…
Now it’s been a while and everytime we get together I think about what I could have gotten my self into had I not decided to really get to know him first.
Sometimes you imagine people the way you want them to be and the little things you see can easily be turned into what you wish them to be so you can confuse say sarcasm for sense of humour, words for action etc.
My advise I hope is clear lol just in case it isn’t I am saying stop fantasising, clear your head and get to know him like you’d get to know a stranger you don’t fantasies about their bulging muscles and manly shoulders… don’t just think about his good qualities also think about his not so good qualities and see if you can live with them and if after all of that you still think he is quality then go for it but since you didn’t say anything about his feeling you may not have much of a choice in the matter anyway… lol I mean has he even shown any interest in you? Sorry but if he doesn’t show at least just as much interest then personally I’ll just walk away…. But then again I have a lot of unwarranted pride **shakes head**.
thanks for the reply...
girl i hear you loud and clear its hard, and shameful but its true what you have said 4real...am even laughing now...and the pride thing well...what can i say?
just one of those things...
Miss P
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Posted: Friday March 10th, 2006 17:45 |
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Abissinia,
Give the lady a round of applause!!That is some great advice.
Mrs. Price,
I think at some time or another well have all had crushes on men no matter how old we are. (I'm in my early 30's and I've had crushes on several men). Far as deciphering the differences between love and a crush, I cannot really give you a definite defintion of it because it differs in some people. I remembered when my mother was talking about falling inlove with my father. Intially, she didn't like my father--as a matter of fact , she couldn't stand him. But as time passed her opinions of him changed without out undestanding why. She couldn't eat, drink, she was emotional about him . Then her aunt told her that she was falling in love with him( Ah ma! Why my dad?!) and that was that. A crush may resemble love, but not as bad to the point that you can't eat. When my father left my family she told that she had a heartache that no doctor on this earth could cure. It was so painful for he rthat I thought she wouldn't survive on my 10 b-day. ( Thankfully, she's over him)
I just loved the advice that Abissinia gave you because too often when we have crushes, majority of the time that is exactly what they are. With crushes we are fixated with fantasy and not getting know the real being in that person. on the other hand, falling in love with someone is often something that happens to us when we not interested in that person, that we get to know them and gradually loving them as people,(sometimes, not all of times)
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