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Posted: Saturday September 17th, 2005 03:20 |
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Posted: Saturday September 17th, 2005 04:43 |
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`I think you are crazy if you think I'm going to read that
I also think you are crazy for marrying at 15
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Posted: Saturday September 17th, 2005 09:08 |
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1st post + life story = .......
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Posted: Saturday September 17th, 2005 09:30 |
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| Passionate heart: It must have been very theraputic to write all your feelings down in such way...however if truth be told I think you already know what the issues are, you already know what you need to do and what has to happen... The issue for you now is do you have the courage of your convictions to do what you know needs to be done? At the end of the day we must all gauge our self worth and whether a situation is conducive to a healthy and happy life..If that situation is a clear contradiction then its a simple test..reread what you wrote above..an ask yourself honestly.. is it in my best interest to continue in this situation, is it in the best interest of my children to stay in this situation.........good luck
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Posted: Saturday September 17th, 2005 10:16 |
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I believe in marraige and staying married. Only if it reached absolute dire straits, would I say quit. I don't think your relationship has reached that yet. It could still be mended.
Why not go and seek councelling by yourself? I genuinely believe you can come through this, but you need help.
I think it's the fact that you are both young why everything is blown out of proportion - not saying that what you are going through is not serious, but it don't necessarily have to mean the end. You both have a child to think about.
The diabetes is new to him, once he has it under control then hopefully it'll calm him down.
I think distancing yourself a little from him, and by that I just mean try not to be around him so much that you're in his firing line, may help too.
The fact that you're use to him being away a lot and now you are both having to deal with being in each others faces is another reason why you may be having troubles.
It seems like there's adjustments problems going on here; his diabetes, the child, marrying young, you both being young and him having to leave Service, but I believe you can grow and get through.
Good luck! 
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Posted: Sunday September 18th, 2005 16:16 |
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| Red Spy or whatever your username is, I did not marry at 15, if you read the post correctly, you would see that I said I married at 20 years of age, and been with him since I was 15 (correction for you). I didn't ask for your comments as far as being crazy or stupid, I just was seeking advice. This is my first time on this board, and I thought maybe I can get some feedback from my people. Not insults....but then again I should know that everyone would not understand me unless they been through the same thing, so I forgive you for being simple minded to my post.
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Posted: Sunday September 18th, 2005 21:29 |
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Hey Passionhearted
I agree with Kunjufu - I'm sure you know what you need to do but you asked for advice so...(I've only highlighted a few things that struck me as there seems to be a lot goin on!)
You've said you're self that you rushed into things too fast. The fact that you were so young means that you would have gone through a lot of major changes through adolescence to adulthood and your relationship doesnt seem to have adapted to those changes. I say that because you also said:
Can I change him to what he once use to be? I just want him to go back to high-school days.
Simple answer...no. If you want to work@ it, work with who you have& you no longer have a teenage boy you have a man.
The second issue is this:
His friends were nothing but bust downs to me that messed with all typed of girls because he would tell me about their ways. I didn't like the fact he was around it, but what could I do....I had to trust him because we were married.
Whenever a man tells me about what their bad reckless player friends have been up to it rings alarm bells for me! " Show me your friends...".
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...his disrespectfulness to me...he is a mean person to me sometimes...and I will sometimes get in his face and try to provoke him to do something.
Is this what you want? However if you purposely proke him 
This advice is coming from a single young woman who has never been married so feel free to ignore but if you're not @ the moment I would advise you to start working, get some independence outside of the marriage. Realise your not a victim - we both betrayed one another before, but he drove me into it. You made the choice take responsibility. Build some confidence and for motivation use the realisation that your son's HAPPY childhood memories wont be of mummy and daddy getting into physical fights.
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Posted: Monday September 19th, 2005 19:29 |
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don't worry I don't send hate mail like you do and then ask not for it to be sent back I don't have the time
you actually took time out to post and then send hatemail to get my attention you obviously have nothing to do lady
god bless to you too and you are right I didn't read it correctly but then again I didn't care to read it
like I said before
I think you are crazy if you think I'm going to read that
and now I am adding you are crazy since you took time to send me hatemail and post part of the mail on the forums
funny how someone who puts in spy instead of cyborg which is part of the fifth generation of computing can call another simple minded but w/e
you come to the forums looking for freedom of speech and you got it. By the way, my gender has nothing to do with it. you are also right. I haven't gone through what you have which is why I don't care.
good day
Last edited on Monday September 19th, 2005 20:32 by Red Cyborg
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Posted: Monday September 19th, 2005 21:58 |
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| ALRIGHTY THEN SYborg....cborg...action hero!!!!
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