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Posted: Sunday September 11th, 2005 09:27 |
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Pls can i Have advice. I met this guy at a club couple of months back. He told me he had just turned 31 years old. Instinctively and for no obvious reason, I said that I was 33 going on 34 later this year. However, the truth is that I am actually 34 going on 35 later this year.
I did not expect tings to progress so well and now i feel bad. I know i only reduced my age by 1 year but God knows, I feel real bad as dis guy REALLY likes me big time.
He is not bothered by the age gap BUT i know that he hates liars. (I do too..I do not normally lie but as i said, when i met him, i was messing around wid my girls, a bit tipsy etc..). Since we started the relationship I did not change what I said originally about my age...He does not have any suspicion I lied but i am feeling guilty.
How can i fix this? Must I just lef it or do I come clean?
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Posted: Sunday September 11th, 2005 09:31 |
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'34 going on 35' not '33 going on 34' as claimed.........and this is your dilemma? Tell me you are not being serious.
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Posted: Sunday September 11th, 2005 09:32 |
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| Tantilise: I think the longer you leave it without correcting the mistake the worse it will be...My feeling is that you tell him and tell him quick..
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Posted: Sunday September 11th, 2005 09:38 |
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oooh no big deal
i always lie and say I am 21 years old............its only when they clock my driving licence and see 3 years younger.............then just act like a victim with * i thought you would not want me, let me in the club, etc etc.
no big deal
I am sure if you said something like you are married, have 10 kids or used to be a man then you will get a reaction.
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Posted: Sunday September 11th, 2005 09:39 |
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@Backatya: Thanx for your reply. God knows I am serious as a heart attack. Do u not think it is a dilema? It is to me.
@Kunjufu: Thank you Kunjufu. I think I need to gear myself up for that. I am just worried dat I may be troubling tings that don't need to be troubled???
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Posted: Sunday September 11th, 2005 09:41 |
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 SoooFresh: am I still cross off your 'good books' lmao...
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Posted: Sunday September 11th, 2005 09:47 |
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@ soofresh: U think its no big deal? Do I just leave it? If i get busted, how do I get out of it? At the end of the day, even my mother sometime say to me: U 35 dis year or are you 34.....sighs!! That mek me think i must just let sleeping dogs lie.. Thanks anyway for replying. TANTALISE
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Posted: Sunday September 11th, 2005 09:51 |
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| Tantalise: hmmmm to me a lie is lie...you'd be better off getting it out of the way quickly instead of letting it come out by accident....my guess is he will probably not be bothered anyway... but he will if he thinks he is being played!!
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Posted: Sunday September 11th, 2005 09:57 |
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| Kunjufu: Thanx again 4 your rational and mature advice which i think I need to take. I will keep u posted on what i decide to do!!
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Posted: Sunday September 11th, 2005 11:44 |
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| Geez and pease and kiss me neck back! There are people out there with serious problems and ur concerned about telling a man ur 1yr younger than u really are? I would expect this kinda thread from a teenager not a fully grown woman. If I ever get this chupid when I'm older someone pls shet me a box.
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Posted: Sunday September 11th, 2005 11:52 |
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@facetygirl: i thot this was an advise section. Stop showing your age by being...mmm a touch ignorant dare i say...throwing back my problem in my face ain't the way 2 do it....maybe when u get older, u'll understand!!!!!!!!Tantalise
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Posted: Sunday September 11th, 2005 12:13 |
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| As far as I can see u don't have a problem which warrants u to create a thread to ask strangers for help. If u told ur man ur real age and he walked out on u it would show he's just as petty as u are. What thread u gonna come up with next: help! I bought my man briefs but he wears boxers. Advice needed. KMT total and utter ridiculousness
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Posted: Sunday September 11th, 2005 12:19 |
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yes indeed, i have noticed thta 'FACETY GYAL' or what ever u call yourself, you do u like 2 come on here and critise people 4 what they say, or what problem they are in, and you need 2 stop, they did not come on here 2 b spoken in that way, or hear how silly or pathetic you think their problem is, so i suggest before you reply 2 anything, think in your head, IS IT GOING 2 BE USEFUL to the person in return, if not u should click on the lickle X located in the top right hand corner of your computer screen.
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Posted: Sunday September 11th, 2005 12:28 |
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@ Tantalise.
You are more than likely just feeling apprehensive about the situation as you are unsure of his reaction. You will be in a better position if you deal with this problem sooner rather than later - it will only get worse the longer you leave it. Although you said he dislikes liar's I'm sure it will work out! Let us know how he takes it!
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Posted: Sunday September 11th, 2005 12:51 |
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I agree with the point that you should tell him the truth asap.
What you have told us sounds plausible so he shouldn't be too upset especially as it's only a year.
What do you think he would say? You've only known him a short time so I should think you're still within the time range to come clean about your mistake.
I should think that we all don't like being lied to, but just imagine if someone was telling you your story and you never lied about this - what do you think your reaction would be?
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Posted: Sunday September 11th, 2005 12:53 |
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| @lady charmer: ABSOLUTELY!!!
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Posted: Sunday September 11th, 2005 12:56 |
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@natalie 1: thankx for the advise. Will def keep u posted.
@Athaba: Thanks for response. U have got me thinking. I think that if somebody lied to me in that way, i will certainly be irritated to say the least. It will make me wonder if they have lied about n e thing else.....gosh, I am in a dilema!!
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Posted: Sunday September 11th, 2005 12:58 |
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Lady Charmer wrote: yes indeed, i have noticed thta 'FACETY GYAL' or what ever u call yourself, you do u like 2 come on here and critise people 4 what they say, or what problem they are in, and you need 2 stop, they did not come on here 2 b spoken in that way, or hear how silly or pathetic you think their problem is, so i suggest before you reply 2 anything, think in your head, IS IT GOING 2 BE USEFUL to the person in return, if not u should click on the lickle X located in the top right hand corner of your computer screen.
Your not a very observant person, there are people on blacknet that say harsher things than I do. True say my name is facetygal it sticks out in people's mind more than others, but don't tell me what I should and shouldn't do. Does it not say at the top of this screen "speak your mind!!!" which was put there by the creators of blacknet, true or false? Now if you were really paying attention to my posts you would see that I do give advice I just don't sugar coat it like the rest of the people on here. At the end of the day none of the members on here are babies so why should I treat them as such? And if the people that started the threads thought I was that harsh they wouldn't pm me after telling me thanks.
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Posted: Sunday September 11th, 2005 17:59 |
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Posted: Sunday September 11th, 2005 19:06 |
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| You lot is just too harsh man...its the advice thread not the big brother thread..now you lot leave it alone geeeezz
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Posted: Sunday September 11th, 2005 21:03 |
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@ Kunjufu
Your a fine one to talk as you are one of the harshest members of blacknet and a moderator to boot. I guess ur in a good mood today huh?
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Posted: Sunday September 11th, 2005 21:18 |
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| Facetygyal yep I am harsh when the moment calls for it.....and yes i don't suffer fools gladly but...come on now Oonu done made Oonu point time to lef di gyal alone...
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Posted: Sunday September 11th, 2005 21:24 |
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| LMMFao!!
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Posted: Sunday September 11th, 2005 21:30 |
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| Don't make me laugh cos ur harsh even when it isn't called for. As I said u must be in a good mood today
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Posted: Sunday September 11th, 2005 21:32 |
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| well facetyGyal it must be you then why me is a good mood innit
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Posted: Sunday September 11th, 2005 21:35 |
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| Oh yeah <raises eyebrows>. What have I done?
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Posted: Sunday September 11th, 2005 21:39 |
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| [he smirks] Oh you made my day complete by just talking to me oh facetygyal
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Posted: Sunday September 11th, 2005 21:46 |
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Oh fe real? Didn't know I had it in me
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