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Posted: Thursday April 14th, 2005 15:21 |
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Hi everyone,
Basically me and my boyfriend have been together since last August and so far things have been going good. When I met him I thought he was being as honest as he could with me...until today. I have two mobile phone lines and i decided to give him one cos he is on 3g and im on t-mobile and i thought it would be easier for us to contact each other if he had one of the t-mobile lines, besides at this stage we were already wrapped up together so i thought why not? he is my man after all.
There then became periods when we would hardly link and recently he's been quite distant and we haven't seen each other for nearly three weeks, we have also hardly spoken on the phone properly cos he's always saying 'i'll call you back' and he doesn't or he ask me to phone him in a bit and when i do he doesn't answer the phone. So i decided that i'll no longer ask him when he wants to meet up i'll let him ask me plus i didn't see why i should be waiting for him to call me back when i could be going out with my friends. So that's exactly what i started doing, i just went out with my friends but i did invite him. Just last week i didn't call him all day and i went out with my friends two two's now he calls me and is like 'where r u?' and when i tell him i'm out he flips 'u don't call me all day and now your telling me your out with your friends'. These type of conversations occured again after that, he's complaining i'm going out all the time and not spending any time with him. Au contraire!
It's been nearly two weeks since i've seen him now so on monday i called him and told him i'm fed up of all this waiting to link him and we get into an arguement. So i blocked the chip on the line he was using cos i thought if your not going to call me and talk to me or answer my calls your not using the phone simple. Well he must have called me about an hour later having a go and i was like 'yeah, yeah i blocked it' He has another phone so y'know i figured other people will call dat number. But then i think to myself this is silly if there is a problem we should talk. So i call him and he's like 'you've fu*ked me up people need to phone me on that line' and i'm like 'your not using it'. Now i got the chip back and this morning i put it in my phone to activate the voicemail and 2 txt messages pop up on my fone so i read them. i called him immediately and asked him who these women were. he said one was a friend and the other was a lady who buys weed from him. so i called both numbers one girl was like yeh i've known him for time we are good friends. the other number was just ringing. then the phone started ringing so i answered it and the person put the fone down when i picked up, but they rang back and the conversation went...
me: hello
woman: hi
me: hello who's calling
woman: hi i think i've got the wrong number
me: are you after .....
woman: yeh is he on this number
me: no not at that the moment, you can call him on his other number or i can take a message.
woman: yeh tell him i want to buy the weed. it's....
me: ok
woman: are you his girl?
me: yeh kind of.
woman: alright bye
next thing you know he's calling me having a go at me for answering the call, telling me i'm fu*king up his 'business' and saying why did i tell her i was his girl, she didn't need to know. so i asked him why he didn't tell me he was shotting weed instead of lying to me. He went into one telling me you know how much i love you, i got bere love for you i want you to have my kids...just going on and on.We are meeting up tonight to 'talk' but i'm afraid he won't trust me anymore. What do you lot think?
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Posted: Thursday April 14th, 2005 15:42 |
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LOL
1) your man a drug dealer
2) never answer anyones mobile, if they are a calling a mobile then they dont wanna speak to anyone else exept the person the number belongs to
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Posted: Thursday April 14th, 2005 16:02 |
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simz,
Is that your picture in the avatar ?.
If it is, you can do way better than that girl.
Drug dealer...!!!
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Posted: Thursday April 14th, 2005 17:22 |
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Lion
I was thinking the same too....
But dealing with a drug dealer.. giving him your phone..... ermm I don't know..... doesn't feel right somehow....
It seems like you are setting yourself up for single mothership.... I hope not... but it looks like it.
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Posted: Thursday April 14th, 2005 17:45 |
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dealers are weird
i was seeing one once, they're too sponatneous.
like the boys... if thats your pic in your avatar make sure he grovels!
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Posted: Thursday April 14th, 2005 19:03 |
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Yeah sims if thats you
good looking
I like a girl with plenty of hair (on her head)
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Posted: Thursday April 14th, 2005 19:58 |
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Hi Simz: how can i put this politely...?
Are you out of you f**king mind....If you have a passion for trouble, being a doormat and arseholes.. My advice keep linking this joker... If you want a LIFE meaning a life not ducking trouble and police then my advice ditch the git NOW!!!
ALL: Is it me or does the word STUPID spring to mind when reading this story, this woman don't need advice she needs a brain transplant...
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Posted: Friday April 15th, 2005 01:15 |
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| All I will say is don't be having no babies untill you are all grown up.
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Posted: Friday April 15th, 2005 01:28 |
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aw..Simz...dont mind them!
but seriously, expect better for yourself.
You know what they say....if you lie down with dogs you come up with fleas.
His "business" will taint you whether you like it ot not.
so take your phone back.....and dump the dog!
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Posted: Friday April 15th, 2005 07:26 |
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| Have to agree with Kunjufu, why do u think ur the one in the wrong? Who cares if he doesn't trust u cos if I were u I wouldn't trust him either. Man is treating u like a dickhead plan and simple. The only 'talking' u should be doing is telling him it's over.
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Posted: Friday April 15th, 2005 11:34 |
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| Thanks for your honest responses. I'm not making excuses for him but I think some of you have the wrong picture about him. He's not dealing all drugs just weed and he's not one of those flashy types. He actually has a JOB, this is a side thing and he doesn't drive because he doesn't have a licence. So he's not one of those completely reckless guys who drive without a licence and buy a flash car and are dripping with gold. Nah! But I didn't know he was doing this, trust me it wasn't obvious. So i felt that he was deliberately hiding what he was doing from me and when i found out, they way i found out I wasn't sure how to react. Anyway I spoke to him last night, I didn't even see these reponses till this morning so I followed my instincts and decided to just chill for a while.
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Posted: Friday April 15th, 2005 11:53 |
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| hey you never did say if that was you in the pic?
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Posted: Friday April 15th, 2005 12:47 |
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| Yeah we demand answer.....
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Posted: Friday April 15th, 2005 14:00 |
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@ blackpower & blackthought
Sorry to disappoint you that's not my pic! Although we look similar minus the long hair (my hair is shoulder length), same complexion, same small face. that's the girl from pharrell's 'maybe' video.
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Posted: Friday April 15th, 2005 15:39 |
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simz wrote: Hi everyone,
...There then became periods when we would hardly link and recently he's been quite distant and we haven't seen each other for nearly three weeks, we have also hardly spoken on the phone properly cos he's always saying 'i'll call you back' and he doesn't or he ask me to phone him in a bit and when i do he doesn't answer the phone. So i decided that i'll no longer ask him when he wants to meet up i'll let him ask me plus i didn't see why i should be waiting for him to call me back when i could be going out with my friends. So that's exactly what i started doing, i just went out with my friends but i did invite him. Just last week i didn't call him all day and i went out with my friends two two's now he calls me and is like 'where r u?' and when i tell him i'm out he flips 'u don't call me all day and now your telling me your out with your friends'. These type of conversations occured again after that, he's complaining i'm going out all the time and not spending any time with him. Au contraire!
Chapter One: he's just not that into you if he's not asking you out
> "Please, if you can trust one thing I say in this book, let it be this: When it comes to men, deal >with us as we are, not how you'd like us to be." I know it's an infuriating concept — that men >like to chase and you have to let us chase you. I know. It's insulting. It's frustrating. It's >unfortunately the truth. My belief is that if you have to be the aggressor, if you have to pursue, >if you have to do the asking out, nine times out of ten, he's just not that into you.
>An excuse is a polite rejection. Men are not afraid of "ruining the friendship."
> Don't get tricked into asking him out. If he likes you, he'll do the asking.
> If you can find him, then he can find you. If he wants to find you, he will.
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